gifts..who what where when an why?!

Re: gifts..who what where when an why?!

• ahhhitsshannyn member

  

  May 2011

  That is a lot of questions. 
  
  You should give a gift to your BMs/GMs since they are spending a lot of money and time to stand up with your on your day.
  
  I think that sometimes people give them at the rehearsal dinner or maybe if you gals are all getting ready together that day.
  
  The rule of thumb when choosing a gift is choose something as if you are shopping for their birthday. If it is a piece of jewelry that you want them to wear on the day, that is not their gift. It should be something not wedding related that you think they will like.

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• kcscejal member

  

  May 2011

  1. Everyone in the wedding party should get a gift. 
  
  2. They are often given out at the rehearsal dinner, but can be given out at a more private time if you want. 
  
  3. They get one as a token of your appreciation for standing up for you and being such a good friend to you. 
  
  4. A reasonable gift is something in your budget that shows you took the time to actually pick something they would appreciate.  It is often recommended to shop for them like it is their birthday.  Any accessories you want them to wear on your wedding day is not a gift.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  May 2011

  so who gets gifts   We got all of our BM's, GM's, readers, Grandma's and gift bearers gifts
  
  when do you give them  we gave them all at the RD
  
  why do they get one  a gift is a TY for their time of being in the wedding and standing up beside you
  
  and whats a reasonable gift?  what are their hobbies/interests? Shop for them like you would if it were their birthday.
  
  Like Duds said, it is typically best to let your BM's chose their own jewelry. Besides, anything you give them that is to be worn for the wedding isn't really a gift anyway.
  

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• BRITTANY143dsl

  

  May 2011

  do they get gifts as well? my father is building somethings for the wedding and my mom/step father are paying for somethings and my mother in law is paying for some things too and my grandma is making my cake... should i give them gifts too? and at the rehersal dinner as well?

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• noodle_oo member

  

  May 2011

  Agreed with all above. 
  
  Also, if you pay for their hair or manicures or whatever for the wedidng, that is not raelly a present either since it is something you are asking them to do for the wedding.  Actually, you should give them the option of hair/makeup for hte wedding.  If you are requiring it done, you pay and it is not a gift.
  
  You could get them gift cards to a spa and set up a spa day (outside of your wedding day). 
  
  Otherwise, as others have said, try to get them something personal.  I also think getting them all the same gift shows very little thought or appreciation of each person individually.  If you pick out somethng for each one based on their personality and what they like, it shows you care a lot more than a generic necklace.  Take this as a moment to thank your friends/family for their love and support over the years.
  

  
  

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• ceglare4

  

  May 2011

  Yep, I agree with PP about not having their "gift" be something they have to wear in the wedding, it isn't a gift at that point. I was in a wedding last summer and our wear-in-the-wedding jewelry was our gift. I didn't like it then and I haven't worn it since. We got a necklace and earrings... one of her BM's doesn't even have pierced ears. Oh, and her MOH gave us our gifts while the bride was off taking pictures (they took them before the wedding). So IMO, it's very tacky to have the jewelry be the gift.

  

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• kcscejal member

  

  May 2011

  I would give them a gift as well.  For parent gifts we're making albums with the wedding pictures, so they won't get the gift until after the wedding obviously.  If someone is helping you out with the wedding it's only appropriate that you give them a token of your appreciation as thanks.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_giftswho?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:404adb15-3ac2-4ecc-8971-5ee363b3fe3aPost:1c768700-6a7a-4f85-b030-0361fe7126cc">what about grooms parents and my parents?</a>:
  [QUOTE]do they get gifts as well? my father is building somethings for the wedding and my mom/step father are paying for somethings and my mother in law is paying for some things too and my grandma is making my cake... should i give them gifts too? and at the rehersal dinner as well?
  Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]
  
  I would.
  
  Some people opt not to get their parents anything, but that is up to you. My IL's didn't want anything b/c they knew we were paying for the wedidng ourselves. But we did get both of our Grandma's gifts.
  
  Like pp said, they can be given at the RD or a more private time that works for you.

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• Wiscisbliss

  

  May 2011

  so who gets gifts? All members of wedding party, and people helping with wedding
  when do you give them? Rehearsal Dinner
  why do they get one? To say Thank You for being a part of the most wonderful day of our lives. 
  and whats a reasonable gift? Somethign each person would like to have
  
  I know that many people are anti-jewelry, but I was a BM in a wedding and I recieved a sterling silver cuff bracelet.  I love it and wear it all the time.  I think as long as the jewelry is something your BMs would really and truley love to wear (and not just conveniently matches the BM dress) then you are OK. 
  
  

  

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• mkrupar member

  

  May 2011

  For someone who's wedding is over a year away, you have a lot of questions that could be answered by lurking. Slow down. Did you just get engaged? Maybe you should try and enjoy your engagement a little before full on wedding planning. You're going to get burnt out.

  
  

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