We mailed our "Save the Date's" a couple of weeks ago for our October wedding. It is 100% Destination. We did the magnets & they turned out great. There is a link to our wedding website with all of the necessary info. A couple of friends that I see frequently did not get theirs for some unknown reason. I am not sure if the envelope was so small that they got lost or if its just that doggone USPS ! Anyway, I texted a couple of my other friends, to make sure that had received theirs, one replied back with "Yes I sure did, will definitely be there ! Are you excited ?". I texted back expl that I was excited & that I was just checking because a couple of friends didn't make it to their mailbox for some reason. I also text, "I can't wait to see you guys (meaning her & her hubby)". She texted back, "Yep I got it, Mom said she is coming with us too !" Now this friend moved to a city for her job a several years ago. Her mother sold her house and moved to the same city a couple of years after that but got her own house, she just wanted to be closer to her grandson. I do know her mother well and she is a nice person, but I don't have room for her & did not consider her as part of the guest count. Also, I had assumed that since her mother lives in the city she now lives in that she would have no trouble getting her mom to keep her child who is like 11 or 12 while they travel for the wedding. Long story short, we don't have room to invite the children of all of our friends and assumed that many would be happy to have a weekend getaway without their kids in fact, a large majority of our friends are looking forward to it for that very reason. It's New Orelans and the French Courtyard can only hold so many people. Now I am wondering since she thought it was OK to just add her mother to the guest list, that she also thinks it's OK to bring her child ? I mean if she her husband and mother are out of town, who is keeping the child ?The website FAQ's state clearly that "only those listed on the invite can attend" to the Question " Can I bring a date/children" ? I alsoI made sure on the Save the Dates to write only the names of those that I intend to name on the invitation. I didn't respond to the text, because I was just stunned & did not know what to say, so I just let it hang in the air. Now I am going to have to pick up the phone to call her & make sure she is clear on who is invited & why. I just hate to have to start this dance so early with people !!!
I am so frustrated that people are not going to the website like I had hoped. The link is on the Save the Date, II don't know if they are waiting until it gets closer to check things out or what, but it clearly has these types of things spelled out. My worry is that people will make assumptions like these, without looking at the website or paying attention to who is listed on the save the date and book flights, reserve rooms, only to get the formal invitation & RSVP card which will only have those who are invited listed. I can't believe that I am already stressing over this. I just forsee having to make a lot of uncomfortable calls from now until October.
Does anyone have any advice ? Is there something more that I could/can do ?