June 2012 Weddings

BM drama cont....

So if yall remember i'm the one with the BM dresses that aren't going to get in until a wk and a half before the wedding and they still will need to be altered. DB swears to me they can get it ready in time... i believe them, i don't really have a choice.

well... later that day i called DB to see when my other BM's dress would be in, well she hadn't ordered it. I called her and she lied to me about it. She has been lying to me about it for a long time apparently because her last story was she was going to pick the dress up a couple weeks ago...NOW she's saying she still has payments on it. When i told her they must have "lost" her order, she went along with it. i was trying to give her the opportunity to tell me the truth and she didn't. Now DB has called my one BM and told her June 12th was definitely when the dress was gonna be in and no sooner. So now theres no chance the one BM is gonna get her dress in  in time since she obviously has not ordered it. My other BM called her and she said she was gonna fix it today, but she was suppose to fix it last week when I talked to her....This is just a big mess!

I"m suppose to be putting my order in with the florist this saturday and i'm wondering if i should even order her bouquet, she hasn't confessed yet even though i've given her many opportunities...

What would yall do?
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Re: BM drama cont....

  • edited March 2012
    You can't make payments at DB, you have to pay in full before they will order the dress. She is lying to you!
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    [QUOTE]You can't make payments at DB, you have to pay in full before they will order the dress. She is lying to you!
    Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]
    agree. we got my dress, all the BM's dress, my mom's dress and flower girls dress. we had to pay in full, there weren't any other options
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  • You have to pay in full there; she's lying.  I would just leave her out of everything and move on with it to avoid more drama.
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  • It sounds like this is her way to saying she doesn't want to/can't be in her wedding. If se didn't actually order it today, I would give her the ultimatum. 
  • I would call tomorrow and see if she placed her order, if not, then I would move forward without her. She obviously doesn't want to be a bridesmaid.
  • Ditto to what all the PPs said: she obviously can't/doesn't want to be in the wedding. It just sucks balls she wouldn't come out and tell you the truth - whether the truth is "Hey, Lindz I'm sorry but my financial situation is tough right now and I can't stand up with you" or "Hey, Lindz it was a great honor to be asked but I can't do this."

    Either way is more acceptable than, let me lie to my friend and drop the ball on her when I can't explain what happened...smh. People.
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  • Aww that's no good. There is no way to rush the order? Is something going on in her life? 
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    [QUOTE]Aww that's no good. There is no way to rush the order? <strong>Is something going on in her life? 
    </strong>Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for asking this question. I'm sorry that it seems she's not interested in being in the wedding anymore, but I hope that you have asked her about her own life throughout this ordeal. Maybe something is going on that makes your wedding take a back seat even if she doesn't want it to.
  • to answer the question about whats going on in her life: She just got engaged and her wedding is in June of 2013,she's a student and so am i. There's nothing crazy going on in her life that wasn't going on before she said she would be apart of this wedding. I'm not one of those bride thats like " its all about ME!"

    we went dress shopping in Feb and she's had plenty of time to do one of two things: 1) order the dress 2) tell me she can't be in the wedding.  If she had chose option two yes i would have been disappointed but i would not have been mad. Me being her best friend, i should have saw this coming i just really hoped she would do this to me on my wedding. 

    ** Point is i'm not mad she hasn't ordered the dress, i'm mad because she lied to my face about it and keeps lying about it. She won't fess up and i know if myself or someone else did this to her on her wedding she would be furious and would immediately disown the person. I'm not liked that, which really makes me feel like a push over.  :(  She's suppose to be my BEST friend and i guess thats what hurts the most.
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  • Thanks for answering, Lindz! I'm sorry that she's being like that but I'm glad you're being a good friend. It really shows a lot about your character.
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