Baby Discussion

tandrosoff · July 2012

For those out there who don't have kids yet, have you & your FI talked about when you want to start trying if you're planning on having children? I am a baby/kid lover & have been since I was little. Our plan has always been get married & then have a baby (lots of my friends have had babies out of wedlock or one night stands... Im 21). FI & I have talked about it a bit because I just wanted to know what his opinion was & the plan would be to start trying 6month - 1 year after the wedding. I want a baby sooner, but I think waiting a little bit is fine. Any others have a baby timeline/plan?

Winnertag1 · July 2012

I'm 23 & FI is 25, we will be getting married a month before I turn 24 & FI turns 26. We have had the baby talk a bunch of times & decided it would be best if we waited atleast 3 years to have kids. We are going back to school (I already have my undergrad but FI is going for his) and FI wants to buy a house before we have kids. Basically, we want to be setlled & have a home before we start trying. We would also want to enjoy married life by ourselves, travel & just take care of ourselves. I love kids though & so does FI so hopefully we do have kids eventually.

tlc35 · July 2012

We are planning on waiting 6 mo to a year but I am 35 and he is 43 so biologically we can't wait too long.

pittpoint1119 · July 2012

We are going to wait a few year I would say 3-5 years. FI and I also wanna enjoy married life by traveling, re doing the house and being able to spend time with friends! My close friends are not in the baby mood and neither are we yet. I can't believe how many people have babies at my age right after getting married.

FLGatorGal88 · July 2012

I am 23 will be 24 by the time we get married FI is 29 and will be 30 by the time we get married... As of now we are waiting till I finish school which will be 2 more years (that's if I get accepted into a nursing school I applied too). We have decided that we will TTC in my last semester of school. We are planning on buying a house somewhere in between those two years. So I guess we will be waiting 2 yrs after we get married plus I wanna enjoy being newlyweds for awhile.

EngagedbytheFalls11 · July 2012

We are 24, going to be 25 when we get married. We both want kids. He asked me when I wanted to have kids, I said we should probably wait awhile, like 12 hours after the reception

. I told him I was kidding. He is in the army and going active duty 1 week before we get married. So we will be moving...somewhere. We decided we should wait until we are at least settled in somewhere before we start trying.

Danny&Mel2003 · July 2012

Well I'm not a fan of broadcasting my age ... but I'd say about one yr after the wedding baby making will begin! He knows what age I want to start trying.

PJBHL5 · July 2012

I'm 27, FI is 32. We have 3 kids between us.
When I got married the first time, I was pregnant within 2 months of getting married and it was 100% planned. I still to this day regret not taking time to enjoy being newlyweds (though Iwill never regret the choice to have children when we did, b/c if i'd waited even one day to conceive i believe i wouldn't have had MY kids with the personalities that I love so much about them) and I whole heartedly believe that that played a role in the demise of my first marriage. We never had a solid foundation of OUR relationship as a married couple before we added kids to the mix.
Patrick, on the other hand, was a different story. Was engaged for like 4.5 years. Got married, then got pregnant on accident after like a year when he was on a break back in town from training, then as soon as the baby was born, he got shipped off to Korea for a year. So he didn't get to be a part of much of it.

We do want more kids. At least one, possibly two. We both love being parents adn it's THE most important thing to us. Plus we really want a child who is half of each of us

That being said, we've agreed to wait a year. Our entire relationship has been based on "it's worth the wait", and we work hard to be sure that we fully enjoy every part of the process... from the friendship to the dating, to the engagement, to the wedding planning, to the getting married, to the being newlyweds... each of those is an important piece to the puzzle that you never have the chance to get back. So while we both have RIDICULOUS baby fever right now, we are forcing ourselves to wait for as close to 1 year after the wedding as possible before we start trying.

augurey · July 2012

Ideally, shortly after the wedding. At the time of the wedding, FI will be almost 31, I'll be about 6 months shy of 29. Ideally, I'd like to have one out by 30 - this way we have options in deciding if we'd like more without having to absolutely rush.

charbakes · July 2012

My FI and I have decided not for a while. We want to be married for a while, travel, eat and drink. We want to enjoy life before we have to caqre for another. We'll probably start trying in another 6 or 7 years.

turtleslove · July 2012

We have not set a "time." We both just turned 25 so ideally before we are 30. But we have also talked about adopting, so we have options we still have to discuss. We are in agreement that ideally we olny want one or two kids. Things happen, but neither of us wants a huge family.

hisbabygirl76 · July 2012

FI and I do not have a child together but I have 3. Being that I am of the Adavanced Maternal Age we started tryng 5mths ago. Which made part of our decision to not go forward with a traditional wedding.

melb2013 · July 2012

I'll be a few weeks away from 24 and FI will be 29 when we get married. We're planning on waiting about 5 years before we have a kid. We'll probably only have one. We really want time to ourselves to just relax and enjoy being together without a kid. I love children, but I also realize that I'm not ready to give up my selfish ways just yet

We going to spend a little more time renting, then buy a house, wait to get the house set up, spend some time traveling, and the think about having a kid. I also want more time to completely devote to my business- I definetely want to tone down the business when I have children. I can feel myself getting baby fever, but I know my FSIL wants to have a baby soon, so I'll have her child to spoil for a while!

bwilso5 · July 2012

I'll be 24 and FI will be 25 when we get married. I'd like to start trying immediately but FI and my family want me to get my RN first. So the plan is to get married and start school next fall. We'll start trying maybe 3 to 6 months before I finish.

Meg&Austin · July 2012

We will be 26 when we get married and we want to try immediately after. Plan on stopping my pills the beginning of May

Cant wait

TogetherPerfect · July 2012

We have had this discussion many times. If you ask him, he wants to try right away but I wanted to wait 6 months to a year to enjoy being newlyweds for a while. He will be 25 and I will be 23 when we get married. He said he will wait... I just can't decide if I want to worry about the pill on our HM. Hmm...

ameliah19 · July 2012

FI and I will both be 23 when we get married and I do not want to have children right away. I'm thinking anywhere from 5-7 years from the time we get married. I still want to go to grad school and travel and do things that are much more difficult when you have a child. We also want to adopt one (i think have one biological and one adopted one and that's it).

joka0606 · July 2012

you may all laugh at this buttttt we will try the fall of 2013. we are both HUGE rugby fans and want to go to the rugby world cup in london fall 2015. if we have a kid, we really don't want to travel with them (which may sound bad, but over-seas traveling with a baby doesn't sound fun to me.) but we don't want to leave a kid less than a year old with our families cuz they might find that too fun either. and i'd rather not be pregnant and traveling so much. yeah i know we're weird, but we want babies and i dont wanna wait too long after we get hitched.

Swazzle · July 2012

FI & I will both be 27 when we get married. We're waiting a few years before even thinking about kids. Our plan is to buy a house within a year of getting married & then we're going to take a few years to settle into that, travel some more, & just enjoy being newly married.

Annas2013 · July 2012

I'll be 2 weeks shy of my 21st birthday when we get married, and my FI will be 22. As often as we've gotten this question, the answer hasn't changed. We're waiting 6-7 years, maybe more, before we have kids. He'll be in PA school and then after I work for a few years I'm getting my MBA, so there's no way we could do kids. Plus we want a few years to enjoy it just being us two. And to eventually buy a house before it's time for kids.

We'll only have one or two anyway, so waiting a while isn't the worst thing in the world. I work in children's retail during school currently, and I've realized I'm not anywhere near ready to have my own kids.

bburkel · July 2012

I'll be 34, almost 35, when we get married, and he will have just turned 31. I have had a history of ovarian cysts and endometriosis, so I have to stay on the pill until we are ready to start trying. Our plan is to start trying shortly after the honeymoon (I want to be able to enjoy myself on the honeymoon). The doctor said it will probably take at least 3 months, and hopefully with my age and such, it won't be much longer than that. We've pretty much decided that there will be kids in our future within the next 2 years if everything goes to plan.

My fiance's dad is a twin, and there are twins in my family, so chances are pretty high that we will have twins. He wants one of each, and I would like to have twin boys.

My nieces and nephews (there's a big age difference in my family) have been getting married in the past few years and I now have 2 great-nephews and 2 more on the way later this year. My hope is that our kids will be around the same age as my nieces and nephews kids so they have someone to grow up with.

tandrosoff · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_baby-discussion?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:8cf64d66-369f-44ac-a7b1-0dcb66914028Post:de987dd5-142b-41e6-95c2-deb350a62c49">Re: Baby Discussion</a>:
[QUOTE]We are 24, going to be 25 when we get married. We both want kids. He asked me when I wanted to have kids, I said we should probably<strong> wait awhile, like 12 hours after the reception</strong> ;). I told him I was kidding. He is in the army and going active duty 1 week before we get married. So we will be moving...somewhere. We decided we should wait until we are at least settled in somewhere before we start trying.
Posted by EngagedbytheFalls11[/QUOTE]

haha! this made me laugh! my FI said we'd start trying within a year after the wedding, not the next afternoon!

RebCappon · July 2012

I will turn 26 a week after the wedding and FI will be 27. We are going to wait awhile after the wedding so that we can enoy married life with each other first. I just got my birth control replaced and it lasts for 3 years so it will expire in 2015 which seems like the right time to have kids. And if we decide we want one sooner it can always come out

jmozul01 · July 2012

We're going to wait a few years before having kids.

VJones1981 · July 2012

We are planning to start trying soon after the wedding. Since I will be 32 when we get married, we don't want to wait. We've discussed family plans for a while now because we have lived together most of the last 4 years.

abbyandmatt51 · July 2012

FI will be 27 and I will be 24 when we get married. I want to wait at least 4 years, but he is pushing for sooner. We'll see what happens! My IUD will need to be replaced 4 years after the wedding, so when that comes out we may just start trying. I'm sure it will work out. He's going to the Methodist seminary, so he'll be a student again and I'm just not keen on having kids while we're also financing school.

Jrprincesspea · July 2012

My fiance and I have discussed this subject thoroughly. We will be 22 when we get married so we've decided to wait awhile. I also have two large dogs one of which will only be a year and a half old when we get married. Now when people ask when we are planning to have kids, I tell them the truth. I'm waiting a few years, though I add that its to get my dog grown up before adding in small children.

jessbrooks1024 · July 2012

We will try right away.

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