My mom and I have a pretty strained relationship. She's a difficult woman. We had a falling out when I was 16 and confronted her about having an affair. I moved out of on my own when I was 16, put myself through college and law school and have not asked her for anything since I was a teenager (I'm 28 now). She came to my college graduation and completely ruined my day by starting a fued with my dad. She did not attend (or even acknowledge) my law school graduation. I have not seen her in three years and she has never met FI.
Even with all of that, I invited her to the wedding. She is my mom and in some way I want her to be happy for me and proud of me. Sending her invitation was incredibily emotional for me. It's the last one I addressed. The RSVP date came and went. I haven't heard anything out of her. She did not return her RSVP. She has several sibilings (my aunts and uncles) who are coming to the wedding. I spoke to her sister (my aunt) and she said that my mom is telling everyone that she wasn't invited. Not true. I don't want to start any drama. If she doesn't feel like she can be there and needs to tell people that I didn't invite her then I guess that's not the end of the World. But I did invite her. And it was a hard thing for me to do, but felt like the right decision. I guess I thought maybe she would realize that she wants to be a part of my life and she's missing out. Apparently not. Even though I know she would probably cause problems if she did come, it's still hurtful that she's playing the victim and telling people that she wasn't invited.
Any other brides that were hoping their wedding would be a way to bury the hatchet and mend relationships? Not looking that way for me.
October 2012 Board: June Siggy
