Guest list oh crap moment

MedStudent13 · January 2013

Ok, so I know this isn't strictly a "Catholic Weddings" dilemma, but I like you guys and trust your oppinion. I just recieved an email Save the Date from a couple that I have known since high school and had kept up with throughout college and only just lost touch with in the past year or so. They were originally on our guest list but we cut them in order to get the guest list down to a reasonable size. Now I feel like I really should invite them. Their wedding is a month before ours. They really have been such an inspiration as a faith filled couple, and I would really like to add them, but I feel really guilty as my parents are paying the cost per head, and I know they are already sacrificing so much to give me and my FI this wedding. I don't know what to do!

professorscience · January 2013

Just give it some thought when you're not in a bit of a panic. You're not required to invite everyone who invites you to their wedding. It is only two people, but you might have something similar to this happen a few times in the next few months.

There were a couple instances where I regretted not inviting someone leading up to our wedding, but that's just how it goes sometimes. If you talk it over with your parents and your FI and decide that this couple really does need to be there, you can go ahead and send them an invite.

chelseamb11 · January 2013

Agreed with Professor. Just talk to your parents about it! Do remember that invites are not tit for tat. As having recently planned a wedding themselves, hopefully they would understand if they aren't on the list too.

Riss91 · January 2013

Can you offer to pay for the extras yourself?

itzMS · January 2013

You're not alone, OP.

DH & I had that same *oh crap* but about a month after our wedding when a couple we'd lost touch with (and thus didn't invite to the wedding) asked to get together and gave us a generous wedding gift when we met up for dinner.

Invite them because you want them there, not because you feel like you have to. I think your parents would understand.

Calypso1977 · January 2013

ditto the others. chances are you will have some "no" replies anyway so the money will all work out in the end. plus, depending upon what your total reception cost is, will another $200 really even matter at this point?

meltoine · January 2013

Do you want to remain friends with them in the future? If you'd like to have a closer relationship than you do right now, accept their invitation and send them one in return. If you are not terribly interested in maintaining the friendship, I'd decline their invite and not return it.

stantokm · January 2013

Ditto the PPs. I just wanted to say that I feel your pain. My best friend from high school and I lost touch a couple years after college; we went to different schools, had different friends, and I just kind of outgrew her. Aside from a chance meeting over a year ago, I have seen her maybe twice in the past 7-8 years. She was on my cut list for the wedding, but she contacted me today because she has an engagement gift for me. Now I feel like I have to invite her.