you should head over to The Bump. Omg, I felt that during the wedding planning there were so many "Emily Post Wanna-Be's" saying what one should and shouldn't do, what's wrong, what's tacky (unless someone asks "Is This Tacky?"). They are at war on my Month Birth Board regarding who should and shouldn't host a shower. I guess whether you're a bride or an expectant mother...It Never Ends! I CAN'T!!!