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Bridesmaid Sister-In Law problems!!

So I asked all of my FI's sister his sister-in law and half sister to be in my wedding party, to include everyone.  My FI's sister in law is complaining to his sister, how the bridal boutique where they order the dresses from is disorganized, dirty and in a far area.  It's not dirty at all!  Is a little old and old school but nothing out of the ordinary!  It carries all of the same designers as an upscale one!  Isn't that far at all.  I feel disrespected that she would even bring this up.  I feel like it's not good enough for them!  I get the feeling she is jealous and takes it out in a negative way a lot.  Should I mention how I feel about her telling other bridesmaid and Mother of groom about this?? What would you do ladies?

Re: Bridesmaid Sister-In Law problems!!

  • Why do you care that she said that?  Seriously.  Get over it.  She's allowed to have an opinion.



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    [QUOTE]Why do you care that she said that?  Seriously.  Get over it.  She's allowed to have an opinion.
    Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

    Woah attitude..I don't think you would appeciate it either.   It's just a little rude, typically anyone that has any courtesy for the bride wouldn't say that.  A bit disrespectful.  If you knew her maybe you would understand.  I was kind enough to invite her to be in it...
  • That's the problem right there.  If you feel that way about her, I don't doubt she doesn't think you guys are besties.  You asked her out of obligation, not friendship, so I don't know why you would expect her to act any differently than normal. 
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    [QUOTE]So I asked all of my FI's sister his sister-in law and half sister to be in my wedding party, to include everyone.  My FI's sister in law is complaining to his sister, how the bridal boutique where they order the dresses from is disorganized, dirty and in a far area.  It's not dirty at all!  Is a little old and old school but nothing out of the ordinary!  It carries all of the same designers as an upscale one!  Isn't that far at all.  I feel disrespected that she would even bring this up.  I feel like it's not good enough for them!  I get the feeling she is jealous and takes it out in a negative way a lot.  Should I mention how I feel about her telling other bridesmaid and Mother of groom about this?? What would you do ladies?
    Posted by vkayse137[/QUOTE]

    Why do you think she's jealous? And how do you even know about these complaints being made to other people? Who is running to you and tattling on her?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Sister-In Law problems!! : Woah attitude..I don't think you would appeciate it either.   It's just a little rude, typically anyone that has any courtesy for the bride wouldn't say that.  A bit disrespectful.  If you knew her maybe you would understand.  I was kind enough to invite her to be in it...
    Posted by vkayse137[/QUOTE]

    But it's not really rude. She doesn't like the shop you sent her to, that's really ok. It's not a reflection on you. It's her personal preference. If it's a common designer let her buy it where she chooses to shop. I'm assuming she has the designer and style number.

    And you really need to stop pretending like she owes you something because you were "kind enough" to ask her to be in it. You didn't have to do that. She's probably wondering why you did if you aren't close and it's obvious you aren't similar.
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
  • I think the rude person here is your FI sister for tattling on her SIL.  People are allowed to have comments and opinions about things.  It isn't like she is refusing to buy the dress from the store she is just stating her opinion.  An opinion that you disagree with and find hurtful but an opinion none-the-less.

    I agree with Viczaesar, get over it.

    And as PP mentioned what exactly do you think she owes you because you "invited her in" to your bridal party?  Do you expect her to bow at your feet and exclaim that everything you are doing is wonderful and amazing?

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Sister-In Law problems!! : Woah attitude..I don't think you would appeciate it either.   It's just a little rude, typically anyone that has any courtesy for the bride wouldn't say that.  A bit disrespectful.  If you knew her maybe you would understand.<strong>  I was kind enough to invite her to be in it...
    </strong>Posted by vkayse137[/QUOTE]

    Oh for Pete's sake.  Honestly, unless I'm really close with someone, I have zero desire to be a bridesmaid so don't assume you've done her this great favor. 

    Let it go, it's really not a big deal. 
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  • Your FI's sister is being a drama llama and trying to start crap here.  Would I be way off the mark in guessing she isn't crazy about SIL either?  FI's sister needs to zip her lip.  The SIL IS allowed to have an opinion and not have to worry about it being tattled and gossiped about.
  • Thanks for your advice ladies.  I never said she owes me anything, but she really wanted to be in I know from my FI, then she is running her mouth. 
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    [QUOTE]Thanks for your advice ladies.  I never said she owes me anything, <strong>but she really wanted to be in I know from my FI,</strong> then she is running her mouth. 
    Posted by vkayse137[/QUOTE]

    I think you need to stop listening to hearsay information.  If you don't hear it straight from the horses mouth then you need to take everything with a grain of salt. 

    Things can always be thrown way out of proportion when repeated by other people.  Remember the game "telephone" by the end of the line the original story had been changed so much that it is usually unrecognizable.  She may have said, "oh it would be nice to be in your wedding" and your FI could have blown it up to "my SIL is dying to be a BM!"  Same can be said about your OP.  She may have said "that store is ok but it is a bit far" and your FI sister could have changed it to "she hates the store, says it is gross and thinks that it is super far away."

  • She dared to have an opinion that differed from yours?  The horror!

    You need to grow up before you get married.  You, your FI and your SIL are acting like a bunch of children.  
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