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"request honour of presence" question

mtbentleymtbentley
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I saw in a few previous posts that "request the honour of your presence" is only supposed to be used if the ceremony is being held at a place of worship. I am curious as to the reason for this. It will not be any less of an honour to have my guests there spending this important day with me just becasue I am not having a religious ceremony. It will be an honour to have my loved ones there no matter where the ceremony takes place. I feel like I must be reading this completly the wrong way?

Could anyone give me some suggestions as to how I can still have formal wording without this phrase (I am very new to this)


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Re: "request honour of presence" question

  • Gabrielle76Gabrielle76
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    I'm not sure why that's the case, I just assumed it was traditional.  You can still use formal wording, it's just that one line that's different.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    The "pleasure of your company" wording is no less formal than using "honour of your presence."   It's just a way to delineate that your wedding isn't in a place of worship (which makes it no less formal than one that is).   
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  • mtbentleymtbentley
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    Thanks for the info on the non-church wording!

    For my first question I was more wondering if there is any story or belief behind this tradition? or if it is just how it has always been? 
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  • casymecasyme member
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    I don't know the origin of the phrase, but in 2012, I find it ridiculous that there's still some old-fashioned, secret code going on in our wedding invitations.  In fact, I never even knew about this secret code until I got engaged.  It's especially silly when it's already going to be obvious if you're invited to a church wedding -- because the invitation WILL TELL YOU "...at St. Michael's Cathedral," or whatever!  We get it! 

    Plus, although this is speculation on my part, I suspect the origin of the phrase Back In Ye Olde Days is a bit insulting -- church weddings were the proper weddings and non-church weddings were for those who didn't "deserve" to get married in a church or couldn't find one that would marry them, like divorcees (gasp!) or mixed-race couples (double gasp!).  And so if you were having a proper wedding, you got the privilege of using the fancy phraseology to telegraph that to everyone.  Gross.


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