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What to do with a gap between rehearsal and RD?

amberr110amberr110
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So, I heard from my venue coordinator that we have to have our rehearsal from 3-4 pm.  I really hate to start the RD at 4 (it's right next door, so the travel time is about 3 minutes.)  
I know gaps are frowned upon for the actual wedding, but what about the RD?  

The whole BP and our parents will be staying at the hotel (also on site) so they will have somewhere to go.  Also, since check in is at 3, they likely will not be able to do so before the rehersal, so that might take some time.
  
The only people that might be an issue (in that I don't know that they would be staying at the hotel the night before the wedding) are the officiant (if he planned to attend the RD), the ushers (who I suppose really don't even have to be at the rehersal if they don't want to - but will be invited to RD regardless) and maybe the readers (I have no idea whether they planned to stay the night before, my guess would be no).  

How big an issue would it be to start the RD at 5:30 or 6?

CN: Rehearsal ends at 4.  I would like to start onsite dinner around 5:30 or 6.  The hotel is also onsite, and the majorty of RD attendees will be staying at the hotel.  Is this OK?
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Re: What to do with a gap between rehearsal and RD?

  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    I would start it at 4.  You are tying up people time in the name of having a bit of a later dinner.  I also think it would be nice to be done a bit earlier - a little time to unwind would be a good thing.
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  • waltzingmatilda13waltzingmatilda13 member
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    You should start it at 4pm. I don't think people will appreciate having to find something to do for that time just so dinner can be later. As long as you let people know that dinner will be starting around 4pm they can be prepared for it. It would also be good to have an early night before they are up getting ready the next day and staying up late that night. 
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    You're just dragging this evening out. Do you think you'll need a whole hour to rehearse? I mean, they can check in at 3:00. Rehearse at 3:30. Give everyone time to talk and get to the dinner... Start dinner at 4:15. Be done by six, giving everyone time in the evening to get stuff done or just relax. Otherwise they'll get there at 3, spend an hour rehearsing in their travel clothes... Check in, unpack, sit around for an hour or two. Go to dinner, go back to the room to rest and sleep.
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  • amberr110amberr110
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    The dinner comes with a three hour bar package.  The BP is close and will want to hang out at least that long, so gap or no, I guess I'm dragging the evening out a little bit :).  

    I guess my concern is what will people do with no organized activity if the dinner is over at 7/7:30?  With a RD ending that early, I'm afraid I'll run into the same problem on the other end.  

    However, the fact that all responders think a gap is a bad idea tells me that maybe I'm just thinking about my own preference to do things later in the evening and make a night out of it, while other people might rather get it over and done with.

    Hopefully the groomsmen don't take an RD ending at 7/7:30 as a reason to start bachelor party part 2.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    If the guys want to party, they'll do so whether the dinner ends at 7:30 or 9:30. And since the dinner comes with a bar, they'll be drinking there, anyway. Honestly, if the RD was over at 7:30, I'd hightail it back to my room to watch Grimm and touch up my nail polish. That's how I usually spend my Friday nights, anyway. People can entertain themselves. They don't need organized activities. And, besides, it's not like you can make the activity mandatory. If the guys (or girls) want to drink, they will. You're overthinking it. Enjoy your rehearsal and dinner and don't sweat the small stuff. :)
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  • getaclue44getaclue44 member
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    I know that for my sister's wedding we did a night out with the younger crowd for drinks at a local bar after the RD.  Provided an opporutnity for those who wanted to hang to do so, but allowed for my parents and grandmother get to bed and relax.

    We plan on being done with our RD at 8--so people who are driving home can and the rest of us can either have an early night or head out for a couple more drinks
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    If the groomsman want to drink, they'll do so whether the dinner ends at 7:30 or 9:30. "I guess my concern is what will people do with no organized activity if the dinner is over at 7/7:30?  With a RD ending that early, I'm afraid I'll run into the same problem on the other end." If it were me, I'd hightail it back to the hotel room to watch Grimm and touch up my nail polish. That's usually how I spend my Friday nights, anyway. You're overthinking and overplanning. Have dinner, have some drinks and then spend the evening enjoying yourself. :)
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