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Fiances youger sister at Bachelorette party weekend

bamababi601bamababi601
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My bridesmaids and I decided to have a weekend at the beach with just the girls 2 weeks before the wedding weekend. My youngest bridesmaid is my fiance's sister and she is 16. When I invited her to come along, all I was planning on the weekend consisting of was us going to the beach and out to eat. We may make a few drinks in the room, but nothing too crazy. Well this past weekend at my lingerie shower, one of my bridesmaids starts showing me all this stuff she has bought for the bachelorette weekend. She had checklists and things that could only be done in a bar type environment. All of the other girls are down for it, but the 16 year old can't go to that. Now I don't know what to do.....do I talk to the young bridesmaid and explain to her that she might not need to come now? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time, I wouldn't want my 16 year old (if I had one) around that stuff. I need help! What should I do?

Thanks for the commetns,
Heather
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Re: Fiances youger sister at Bachelorette party weekend

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, you have already invited her. Let the bms know that the beach weekend needs to be toned down because your fsil is only 16. They can either return the X rated stuff they bought or they could have the bar hop, as a separate event, on another night.
                       
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Maire.  She's invited; you can't univite her.
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  • ajroarkajroark
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    edited December 2011
    I'm conflicted on this one. Yes, you should definitely not uninvite her, but I don't see how she could come anyway if your other bridesmaids are planning you a party that involves going to 21+ events/locations. Maybe have two parties or at least go to dinner before the bars so the 16 year old can be included in some portion of the evening?
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  • Allycat11Allycat11
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    edited December 2011
    Definitely keep the invitation out there...as a 16 year old I would feel soooo offended if all of the sudden I was uninvited.  However, she clearly can't participate in some things, so have a seperate bar night with the girls when you're back home and play all of the fun games!
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  • Mandalynn9112Mandalynn9112
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    edited December 2011

    Either plan a second party to do the wild weekend on another day or don't, but either way I don't think you should uninvite her.  You were planning on low key and it's ultimately your party whether or not others are planning it for you.  Your wishes need to be met first and fore-most.

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  • MrshannahboydenMrshannahboyden
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    edited December 2011
    I think it would be fine to invite her as long as she can bring a friend so she's not feeling left out when you guys go to the bars and such.
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  • lizaltonenlizaltonen
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    edited December 2011
    I feel differently, I think the younger sister would understand that you want to have a more adult party and would probably understand why she can no longer come. Your bachelorette party should be a time for you and your friends to go out and celebrate before you tie the knot and although you may consider your soon to be little sister a friend, you also wouldn't want to miss out on all the fun your bridesmaids and best friends are planning for that night. Idealy this will be your one and only bachelorette party.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's rude to uninvite someone to anything.  If you/they wanted to do a more adult themed party, then the invite shouldn't have been extended in the first place.  However, since it has, I'd recommend toning down your plans and saving the 'adult' themes for another night....there's no rule that says you can't have more than one bachelorette party (or essentially a 2-parter)
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  • bamababi601bamababi601
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the comments everyone. After talking with the other bridesmaids, we have decided just to keep the weekend low key. Maybe we will have a separate night for the older girls to go out again.
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