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Worried about MOH

daniellejohnhardindaniellejohnhardin
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My MOH has been my best friend for the past 4 years and there was no question in my mind for her not to be my MOH. But lately I've been feeling that maybe I should have held off on asking her. When I went on my wedding dress hunt, I had her go along with me and my mom. Every dress I tried on she had an opinion. No, that's not right, she had an absolute fit with every dress. "This one is too long", "this one has too much going on", "this one makes you shine too much", etc. After I was done I felt like the experience wasn't what I expected at all. I felt like I wasn't good enough to be a bride. Now it's time to go looking for bridesmaids dresses. I want to find something modest and works with all the girls since their bodies are so different. The problem is, that my MOH has a tendency to houch things up. She isn't the skinny party girl and I'm afraid that she might pick a dress and she'll fall out of it or rip it mid-reception. I have lots of family and friends that are religious and I don't want them to feel uncomfortable. So do I bring her with me to pick out the dresses? Or should I just go with my sister and mom and make the decision without her there? HELP!
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  • JessicaCrystalGailAmersonJessicaCrystalGailAmerson
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    edited December 2011
    Having a very opinionated person to go with you when shopping for your wedding dress can be stressful, and can really put a damper on your mood. Its your choice who goes dress shopping with you, so choose wisely.  If you would feel uncomfortable bringing her than don't, but you should be prepared to handle her reaction when she finds out you didn't take her. Its also your choice which dress she wears, so if she's not happy with your selection, and doesn't order the dress, she's taking herself out of the wedding party. If things start getting heated just sit down and tell her how you feel. Its better to be honest than to not say something at all sometimes.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_worried-moh-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:6f2e1a40-925f-4961-9fed-c6c0f655d34aPost:b0e26a9a-7266-4d6b-8d78-6a9a87d79442">Re: Worried about MOH</a>:
    [QUOTE]Having a very opinionated person to go with you when shopping for your wedding dress can be stressful, and can really put a damper on your mood. Its your choice who goes dress shopping with you, so choose wisely.  If you would feel uncomfortable bringing her than don't, but you should be prepared to handle her reaction when she finds out you didn't take her. <strong>Its also your choice which dress she wears, so if she's not happy with your selection, and doesn't order the dress, she's taking herself out of the wedding party. </strong>If things start getting heated just sit down and tell her how you feel. Its better to be honest than to not say something at all sometimes.
    Posted by JessicaCrystalGailAmerson[/QUOTE]
    I disagree.  It's your job to find a dress that all of your ladies feel comfortable and that fits into the lowest budget among them. 



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  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_worried-moh-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:6f2e1a40-925f-4961-9fed-c6c0f655d34aPost:b142b3de-277d-4349-938f-9b7da526d6e5">Re: Worried about MOH</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worried about MOH : I disagree.  It's your job to find a dress that all of your ladies feel comfortable and that fits into the lowest budget among them. 
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    </div><div>Or just let them pick a style on their own so you don't have to worry about finding one that works for everyone. Pick a store like AA or DB (make sure they can all afford that first, dresses range from like $75-$200), a color, and a length (maybe a fabric too), then let them choose. </div><div>
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    That's sad that your MOH wasn't very supportive of you when you were looking for your dress. Have you ever watched 'Say Yes to the Dress?'

    You can compromise when picking the bm dresses. The first thing you must do is ask each girl privately what her dress budget is. The lowest figure should be the dress budget. Then take your mom and sister to do some pre-shopping. Narrow the bm dress choice down to 3 dresses, same color, various styles. Let each bm/moh select from those.

    Good luck.

                       
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  • daniellejohnhardindaniellejohnhardin
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice. My mom even told me she stopped giving her opinion on the dresses because my MOH was being overly critical.

    The dress I have in mind will be comfortable and will go with all the girls. I know it's my wedding and I am making the decision, I just don't want to go through the same thing again. Two of my BM's are religious girls, so I'm trying to find a dress that makes her feel comfortable. With my MOH, not so much. She's not a small girl any more either so I want to make sure she looks nice.

    I think I will go with my sister and mom on a pre-shopping trip just to get an idea. I just hope that she won't try to make me change what I want.

    The color of my wedding is majority pink and she threw a fit knowing that she would have to wear that particular color, including telling me "If you make me wear pink, I'm renouncing my title as MOH." Things like that make me wish I wait on asking her to be my MOH. I can't take it back now, but still....it's extremely frustrating with her.
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  • steffenfamsteffenfam member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't let your MOH's threat of "renouncing her title of MOH" scare you.  That's just her way of manipulating you into getting the dress/color that SHE wants.  I agree with PP's - make a preliminary trip to narrow down the dress types.  Then let the store know the color you want for when they place the orders.
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