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Big Ass Vent.

MeaganR12MeaganR12
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Am I being unreasonable?

My nana lovingly offered to pay for my flowers months ago. Lately she's been telling me I needed to make an appointment with the florist I wanted so we could go together and sign a contract. So 2 weeks ago, I told her when it was and wrote it in her calendar in her kitchen. The florist is about 15 minutes from her home. 

Yesterday morning (the day of the appointment) I call her cell phone and leave a voicemail reminding her that the appointment is tonight. I wait a few hours and still haven't heard back from her. Now it's about an hour before the appointment and I need to leave to meet the florist. I send her a text (she's a modern lady) reminding her again and giving her the address again. She never called, she never showed up. 

She has a lot on her plate, and she owns a construction business. I get that. But seriously? You don't even call?

I get out of the appointment, call my mom and tell her that my nana didn't show up and I hadn't heard from her. My mom was very apologetic and said she felt bad, blah blah blah. 

Somehow my cake and wine tasting and planning session with my venue booked for this Saturday came up. I made this appointment 3 months ago. My FI's mom is flying in from Denver so she can be a part of it and my step dad is also coming. 

She had the audacity to ask if we can reschedule it for Monday or Wednesday. I told her they only do it on Saturdays and they book up fast (which is the truth, but I really wanted to say: why does everyone have to be inconvenienced for you?). She said, "That's bullshit! Give me their number and I'll call them myself!". I tried to explain to her that my step dad, my FI, and I all had to work on Monday. I was driving home so I told her I would call her back and we would talk later. 

I got home and told my FI everything that had happened. He was so pissed and he called our venue and told them that we had a family member who might call and try to change the appointment but to leave it the same no matter what. 

I feel like such a drama llama venting about this, but seriously what is everyone's deal!?

BTW, my nana has since called and apologized.

Summary: My nana offered to pay for my flowers then didn't call and didn't show up to my florist appointment. In the same day, my mom asked me to change a tasting and planning session I made 3 months ago from Sat to Mon even though all of us work on Mondays and my FMIL flew in from Denver to attend. 


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  • LADY324LADY324
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    Did you reiterate to your mother that your FMIL booked a flight to be able to attend too and that it is way too late to change her flight.  What does your mother have to do that is so important that she can't change when she has known about your appointment for 3 months now?

    I am glad your Nana apologized it is crappy that she didn't get back to you but hopefully you can forgive her and reschedule.  I am learning that I really need to pick and choose my battles.  Paying for your flowers is very nice of her :)
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  • ceglare4ceglare4
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    I would be both worried and irritated if I were you regarding the flower situation. I don't know what she said about why she didn't call back or show up, but I feel for you there.

    And why does your mom want you to reschedule your appointment anyway? Will you be upset if she doesn't show up when you don't move it? My mom asked me to move my makeup trial so that FI and I could go to a Tigers game with her and my stepdad and I didn't even want to do that! Once it's set, it's just so much easier to leave it be. So we just aren't going to the game, but they are. Perhaps your mom just shouldn't go on Saturday if she's gonna make a stink about it?
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  • bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
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    Totally agree with what LADY said, on all counts. It sucks that your Nana missed and honestly, I'd still be pissed off, but at least she apologized. Did you at least get something accomplished with the florist or does it really depend on your Nana's budget/etc.?

    It sounds like your mom is being difficult for the sake of being dificult. I would just call her and be like, "Honestly, there are too many people involved at this point and we're not changing. You're just going to have to make it on Saturday or not join us, but I'll be sad that you don't partake."

    Also, drama llama - seriously, LOLing. :)
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  • Nati05Nati05 member
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    Yeah seriously, what's your mom's reason for wanting to reschedule?? Sorry you're dealing with all this! :(
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  • butterflyjumper1butterflyjumper1
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    you have every right to be a DRAMA LLAMA hahaha I love that phrase!

    But seriously, that really sucks that your Nana did that to you.  Not to mention the whole contract/payment thing, but it would have been fun for her to be there with you and support you during the meeting. I ended up having to go to my florist consultation by myself too (busy parents, in laws who didn't care to come even though they are paying for our flowers, fiance was at work) and it kind of sucked!! But, I am glad that she apologized and that hopefully things are getting better.

    But golly gee, your mom sounds like she is being a MOB-zilla!! What in the world does she have going on that would necessitate her changing this?? it sounds like she is thinking of no one but herself.  Most normal humans do have to work on Mondays.....

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  • MeaganR12MeaganR12
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    My family all works together, my grandparents own 2 construction companies. My mom is saying that she's busy with this VA case they have going on. The whole thing is due May 3rd and she says she has to work on it on Saturday. My FI and I have caught my mom in a lot of white lies lately and I just have this gut feeling she has something planned with her boyfriend on Saturday. I mean, why couldn't she work on it on Monday? It makes no sense to me. 

    She knows my FMIL is coming, she asked when she was leaving and that's when she suggested mon or wed because shes leaving thursday. 

    And I'm not going to say anything to my nana, I appreciate her apology and the fact that she's offering to pay is really generous. It was just the fact that it felt like 2 of the people closest to me really didn't give a sh!t yesterday, ya know?
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_big-ass-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a794ca24-9593-4674-897e-c4779696c7c3Post:84bae01e-dd1e-467d-a81a-0cd80d870ff4">Re: Big Ass Vent.</a>:
    [QUOTE]My family all works together, my grandparents own 2 construction companies. My mom is saying that she's busy with this VA case they have going on. The whole thing is due May 3rd and she says she has to work on it on Saturday. My FI and I have caught my mom in a lot of white lies lately and I just have this gut feeling she has something planned with her boyfriend on Saturday. I mean, why couldn't she work on it on Monday? It makes no sense to me.  She knows my FMIL is coming, she asked when she was leaving and that's when she suggested mon or wed because shes leaving thursday.  And I'm not going to say anything to my nana, I appreciate her apology and the fact that she's offering to pay is really generous. It was just the fact that it felt like 2 of the people closest to me really didn't give a sh!t yesterday, ya know?
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    I hear ya it was just 1 thing after the next and I am sure you were still pissed about your nana when your mom laid that on you.  That would be really shi*ty of your mom if she is lying to you b/c she has plans with her boyfriend.  If I were you I would just keep the appointment. 
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  • bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
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    Total tangent - I just google image searched "drama llama" and got this: http://www.reoiv.com/images/random/Drama%20Llama%2002.jpg

    Pretty much laughing hysterically to myself.
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_big-ass-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a794ca24-9593-4674-897e-c4779696c7c3Post:de60542d-d669-4f9f-b7ef-5e07de44a038">Re: Big Ass Vent.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Total tangent - I just google image searched "drama llama" and got this: <a href="http://www.reoiv.com/images/random/Drama%20Llama%2002.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://www.reoiv.com/images/random/Drama%20Llama%2002.jpg</a> Pretty much laughing hysterically to myself.
    Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

    Lol I totally saved that picture for future use whenever it will be needed.
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  • MeaganR12MeaganR12
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_big-ass-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a794ca24-9593-4674-897e-c4779696c7c3Post:de60542d-d669-4f9f-b7ef-5e07de44a038">Re: Big Ass Vent.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Total tangent - I just google image searched "drama llama" and got this: <a href="http://www.reoiv.com/images/random/Drama%20Llama%2002.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://www.reoiv.com/images/random/Drama%20Llama%2002.jpg</a> Pretty much laughing hysterically to myself.
    Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

    <div>hahaha literally laughed out loud.</div>
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  • AllyG303AllyG303 member
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    Don't you just love family?  Sorry that all happened. :/  Hopefully it gets worked out soon with your flowers and your mom can be a big girl and go with the flow on the tasting.  
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  • BeabullMomBeabullMom
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    Meagan you totally have the right to vent!  I would be annoyed/upset if I was you too.  I hope things work out for your venue meeting.
    Also, I totally love that phrase and am stealing it as well. :-p
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  • ajmom2twoajmom2two
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    Hugs!  I would need to vent if I was you too!  What a craptastic day!  Having people not return calls when we have something planned is one of my very biggest pet peeves and I find it very stressful! I would definitely say sorry mom, but we will NOT be rescheduling.  Thats pretty selfish of her to want everyone else to change plans for her, when she knew about this in advance!  
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  • Melissa.hyltonMelissa.hylton
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    Very annoying. First Nana messed up but she apologized but you can fix that. On the other hand your mom sounds like a control freak and needs to just deal with it. If she cant make it because of whatever reason she has then thats on her. She will be there or wont be there. 
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  • littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
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    MEAGAN!!!!!! Hugs <3  family can be so frustrating!!
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  • flobear100flobear100
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    UGH! I feel horrible that your Mom is being that way. I think the closer we get to our weddings, the more other people are wanting things from "the brides"...another example of how people say it's all about the bride and groom, yet they keep wanting us to change things to make it easier for them.

    I'm glad that everything worked out with you and your Nana...as for your Mom, let her know if she can't make it, you understand, you'll let her know how it goes.
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