Two quick questions

Tahlora · August 2012

One, What does our MC need to know? No one seems to be able to tell me IRL lol. Does he just need our full names and our family (like parents and sibs) names? or do we need to give him more info?

Two, My dad just had a baby

, she is 5 days old now

, with his new wife, and I had been planning on having her be my flower girl. My dad's wife has a 3 yo boy who is being ring bearer. I was wondering what peoples opinions would be on having one of my bridesmaids, 2 are my sisters near my age and one really close friend, carry the baby? we have uneven #s for bridal party, I have 3 and FI has 2. I was thinking of having the boys all just standing there and then the girls walk down after RB the first one carrying the baby??? They all love the baby and she is to small to put in a wagon I think safely and I am to paranoid to have her in a basket, it might break. Thoughts?

LiLe422 · August 2012

My little sister was a junior bm in my brothers wedding. She carried my 8 month old nephew down the aisle. It was really cute.

JadziaDax · August 2012

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[QUOTE]One, What does our MC need to know? No one seems to be able to tell me IRL lol. Does he just need our full names and our family (like parents and sibs) names? or do we need to give him more info? Two, My dad just had a baby :), she is 5 days old now :), with his new wife, and I had been planning on having her be my flower girl. My dad's wife has a 3 yo boy who is being ring bearer. I was wondering what peoples opinions would be on having one of my bridesmaids, 2 are my sisters near my age and one really close friend, carry the baby? we have uneven #s for bridal party, I have 3 and FI has 2. I was thinking of having the boys all just standing there and then the girls walk down after RB the first one carrying the baby??? They all love the baby and she is to small to put in a wagon I think safely and I am to paranoid to have her in a basket, it might break. Thoughts?
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</div><div>I hired an MC through the DJ company and they gave me a few sheets of paper to fill out. I'm assuming your MC will do the same. He basically needed to know first names of wedding party members, bride and groom's full names, song lists, etc. He coordinated the events of the wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>For your second question, I probably wouldn't have the baby involved in the wedding party. I don't think there's anything wrong with going through with your plans, but I wouldn't do it myself. She's way too young.

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QueerFemme · August 2012

I wouldn't have the baby in the wedding party. Let her sit on her mother's lap comfortably.

HobokensFury · August 2012

Sorry but it's not cool to use the baby as a prop in your wedding.

Ali092011 · August 2012

As far as the MC goes, see if yours has a form for you to fill out. Ours has a few that we have to bring to our final meeting. Aside from the who's who of the bridal party and immediate family, the MC needs to know who you want formally introduced and how you and your new H want to be introduced (are you changing your name or keeping your maiden name, going by first names or Mr. and Mrs., etc.). He or she also needs to know if you're doing any spotlight dances (first dance, father-daughter, mother-son), toasts, bouquet and/or garter toss, or a cake cutting ceremony. Our DJ/MC is using our responses to create a timeline of the reception.

Your MC may also want to know what songs are on your "do not play" list and which you absolutely must hear.

It sounds cute in theory to have a baby being carried down the aisle, but there are just too many variables that could make it a terrible idea.

Tahlora · August 2012

Our MC is FI's uncle, he has done a few before apparently and is good at it he just wasnt very clear about what all he needed, or FI forgot, thats a good posibility too lol.

And I don't want to use her as a "prop". She is my sister, I have my 2 full sisters and my girlfriend, who lived on the farm next to us growing up and she is a single child so we "adopted" her and my stepbrother is the ring bearer. I think it would be nice to have all of my siblings involved. I don't care that she wont remember, she will know about it growing up and there will be pictures. And I was going to have her given to my dad or his wife when they get to the end of the aisle so the girls dont get puked on or get tired holding her. We are also getting married outside in front of a old church, unless it rains, the church isnt big enough for everyone comfortably. And she doesn't cry much and I am ok with her sleeping through it, and who cares if she does, she is a baby. Our ceremony is only 12 minutes long anyway and our officiant is loud. I was just wondering if carrying her was the best idea or if there was something I hadnt thought of.
I am pretty insulted that you would sugest I am only having her there as a prop. She isn't a teddy bear. I love her, she is part of my family.
Thanks

lrichmtg · August 2012

I think the question on the baby also needs to take into consideration when your wedding will be. We don't have that information and see "5 days old today" and get a little concerned about a baby being out among that many people at that age -- let alone just a little bit of a weirdness/awkwardness factor to the ceremony.

For me, I wouldn't want to take that newborn out into a crowd where anyone could infect her when she's that young. It's also not the same as going to the store or something where people aren't just going to come up and touch the baby. Weddings are a completely different setting.

Weddings + babies == people feeling like it's OK to touch and hold the baby + germs...well you know where I'm going. I suppose if she's going home during the reception, then this isn't an issue though.

I get that you want to involve all your siblings and show your acceptance of the situation, which is fantastic, but trust me, in the future she's going to care nonetheless if she wasn't carried down the aisle with something attached to her for the ceremony. I doubt that the thought that she was "left out" will even cross her mind.

You have many, many years ahead to include her in your lives.

Ali092011 · August 2012

I understand your desire to include everyone in your WP and I understand you don't see her as a prop. Like I said before, there are just so many things that could happen. I doubt the baby will come to any physical or psychological harm (like PPs said, she probably won't remember the wedding), but you will have the added stress of figuring out who's going to hold her/carry her and what will happen when she inevitably starts crying the moment she starts being carried down the aisle. It just doesn't seem worth it to me. Take as many pictures as you want with her after the ceremony, and let her sit with her mother during.

kaos16 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I think the question on the baby also needs to take into consideration when your wedding will be. We don't have that information and see "5 days old today" and get a little concerned about a baby being out among that many people at that age -- let alone just a little bit of a weirdness/awkwardness factor to the ceremony. For me, I wouldn't want to take that newborn out into a crowd where anyone could infect her when she's that young. It's also not the same as going to the store or something where people aren't just going to come up and touch the baby. Weddings are a completely different setting. Weddings + babies == people feeling like it's OK to touch and hold the baby + germs...well you know where I'm going. I suppose if she's going home during the reception, then this isn't an issue though. I get that you want to involve all your siblings and show your acceptance of the situation, which is fantastic, but trust me, in the future she's going to care nonetheless if she wasn't carried down the aisle with something attached to her for the ceremony. I doubt that the thought that she was "left out" will even cross her mind. You have many, many years ahead to include her in your lives.
Posted by lrichmtg[/QUOTE]

I was thinking this too. When is the wedding? How old will she be when you get married? If everything is close together, maybe you could just include her in a few of your pictures, then she can be off somewhere safely with her mom or a sitter, away from a bunch of germy wedding-goers. That way she'll be included in some of your memories without having her exposed to everyone.

Also, has anyone asked the infant's mother what she is comfortable with? She may not want her teeny, tiny baby paraded out in the middle of a wedding.

mrsbiss2be · August 2012

I agree with most. Keep the baby out of the wedding party. It might be too much for her anyways.

HobokensFury · August 2012

Your wedding is September 1 according to your profile. Let me ask you this- would you want your 2.5 week old baby outside around tons of people? It's not healthy for the baby, she could catch something. Honestly I don't know any mother that would be ok with that.

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