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katherinewilloughby
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How do I go about doing donation favors?
Do I ask them for tags to give our guests to place on the table setting, or is that something I do myself?
Has anyone done this?
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Re: Donation Favors
A lot of people frown on donation favors because it is not a favor to your guest and they may not agree with the charity you support and not want anything to ever be done in their name in regards to that charity.
If you want to spend the favor money on a donation go for it. Just don't do favors. Or some charities you can purchase items from and use those as your favors (like candies, cookies).
I love the idea of donating to charity. However, I think the idea of donating money to charity and then ANNOUNCING that fact to your guest is beyond tacky.
Do a good deed, but don't feel the need to broadcast it.
My standard answer to the question of donation "favors".
Make your donation. I believe in donations. I make them myself. I think they're a good thing to do.
But don't pretend that they're a favor to your guests. Because they're not. They're a favor to the organization, and to you. You're taking the money you'd spend on a little something for your guests and giving it to someone else. How do you figure that's a favor for your guests?
Honestly, I don't need a favor. I don't really want a favor. You're already giving me food, drinks, entertainment. I don't need a matchbook or m&ms (although I LOVE m&ms) as a thank you.
But please don't in any, way, shape or form think that giving $$ to a charity is somehow doing something for me.
I'd liken it to a guest coming to your wedding and giving you a card that says "In honor of your marriage, I have given a donation to the "eastern micronesia tsunami prevention fund". It may be important to your guest, but it probably doesn't mean anything to you. So it's not really a gift for you, is it?
[QUOTE]Donation favors is an oxymoron, IMO. My standard answer to the question of donation "favors". Make your donation. I believe in donations. I make them myself. I think they're a good thing to do. But don't pretend that they're a favor to your guests. Because they're not. They're a favor to the organization, and to you. You're taking the money you'd spend on a little something for your guests and giving it to someone else. How do you figure that's a favor for your guests? Honestly, I don't need a favor. I don't really want a favor. You're already giving me food, drinks, entertainment. I don't need a matchbook or m&ms (although I LOVE m&ms) as a thank you. But please don't in any, way, shape or form think that giving $$ to a charity is somehow doing something for me. I'd liken it to a guest coming to your wedding and giving you a card that says "In honor of your marriage, I have given a donation to the "eastern micronesia tsunami prevention fund". It may be important to your guest, but it probably doesn't mean anything to you. So it's not really a gift for you, is it?
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Haha Trix, do you just copy and paste this into every thread where donation favors are brought up? I agree with you 100%, and think its good for people to read if they havent scrolled down like seven or eight posts to the last time it was brought up, or read the sticky.. anyways, just saying, it made me laugh a bit.
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1-For an animal charity the couple got little doggie bone candies, put them in boxes, and stuck a note on them that said. A donation was given in your honor to ___. Thank you for being with us. We hope you enjoy the wedding!
2- A framed paper was on the place card table that said: Donation was given in honor of our guests. thanks you for coming......
3- Just a note on every place setting. I didn't like this one as much; it seemed tackier than the others.
I had a friend that thought it would be fun to have people cast a vote for 1 out of 5 charities while waiting at the cocktail hour. Then they would tally the votes and make the donation after the wedding. $5 for each guests' vote. That way guests have a say it what charity it would go too. Not sure how this will go over but wondering about it.
To answer your question: Just go to Hobby Lobby and get some cute paper to DIY these. Giving to the charity and then asking for something in return is a little strange to me.
[QUOTE]I'm one of those people that would enjoy hearing that the couple gave to a charity instead of spending money on a lame favor that I won't take home...or candy that I will just eat, digest, and forget about. I've seen charity favors done several ways. 1-For an animal charity the couple got little doggie bone candies, put them in boxes, and stuck a note on them that said. A donation was given in your honor to ___. Thank you for being with us. We hope you enjoy the wedding! 2- A framed paper was on the place card table that said: Donation was given in honor of our guests. thanks you for coming...... 3- Just a note on every place setting. I didn't like this one as much; it seemed tackier than the others. I had a friend that thought it would be fun to have people cast a vote for 1 out of 5 charities while waiting at the cocktail hour. Then they would tally the votes and make the donation after the wedding. $5 for each guests' vote. That way guests have a say it what charity it would go too. Not sure how this will go over but wondering about it. To answer your question: Just go to Hobby Lobby and get some cute paper to DIY these. Giving to the charity and then asking for something in return is a little strange to me.
Posted by suz62984[/QUOTE]
Giving a favor in addition to the donation is the silliest thing I've ever heard of. You dont need to give afavor to explain that you've given a donation. Just give the favor. Or the donation. But giving both and announcing the donation is AWish. Announcing the donation at all is AWish because it's not a favor to the guests, rather it's asking the guests to recognize what nice and charitable people the hosts are. Doing the tally for which donation to give is also AWish. Don't waste your money on such shenanigans. Just make the donation quietly and pat yourself quietly on the back.
Most guests won't remember if they received a favor or not, so they wouldn't miss them if they weren't on the table.
We were planning on doing this and make a donation to the Michigan Humane Society...so it's not really something anyone would be opposed to (and if they are, I wouldn't really want them at my wedding anyway because what kind of person opposes a donation to a humane society????)
Can someone maybe explain to me why doing this is so wrong? I would rather sit at my seat at someone else's wedding and get a card that says the couple made a meaningful donation in my name, instead of some stupid candle or something that I'll probably throw away the next morning when I check out of my hotel room.