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Which one to invite them to?

beautifulbridetobe11beautifulbridetobe11
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So my MOH is already asking me tons of questions about my bridal shower and bparty, neither of which I've thought much about yet. But I tried to sit down yesterday and split the guest list between out of town people that couldn't really come to parties, bridal shower, and bparty. But I had a little bit of a problem. I have two guests that are a good bit younger than me and at the time of the wedding will both be 19. I know 19 is adult, but the idea of inviting them to the bparty makes me uncomfortable based on our relationship and their personalities. Is it ok to just invite them to the bridal shower? They would be the only younger guests there besides the bridesmaids, becuase you just invite guests to one party right?
Oh, and if it helps, we're treating my bparty like a lingerie shower and not just a girls night out.
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Re: Which one to invite them to?

  • mysticlmysticl member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been invited to both shower and b-party.  Is part of your concern with the 19 yr olds at the b-party that there will be drinking there?  What is it about your relationship that you wouldn't want them at the b-partybut it would be ok to have them at the shower.

    Keep in mind that every female guest at your wedding does not need to be invited to the shower and/or b-party. 
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  • twilight.rosetwilight.rose member
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    edited December 2011
    To answer your question, yes, it's fine for your shower hosts to invite them to the shower and not the bachlorette party.
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  • kayboo1218kayboo1218
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_one-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:e25d9971-bf95-4d97-9965-4f193474c586Post:9622488e-9a5b-46dc-abee-2be3f012a077">Re: Which one to invite them to?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've been invited to both shower and b-party.  Is part of your concern with the 19 yr olds at the b-party that there will be drinking there?  What is it about your relationship that you wouldn't want them at the b-partybut it would be ok to have them at the shower. <strong>Keep in mind that every female guest at your wedding does not need to be invited to the shower and/or b-party</strong>. 
    Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]

    This. If you are not comfortable with them being at the b-party then you don't have to invite them. There is no need for EVERY WOMAN invited to the wedding to be invited to the shower and b-party. Those two events are usually more intimate affairs (esp. the b-party) for close friends and family. Hope this helps!
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    edited December 2011
    Inviting people to both the shower and bach party is fine.  Usually the shower is more family oriented and the bach party is more friends oriented, but there is no rule against inviting somebody to both.  The rule is against inviting the same person to multiple showers.
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_one-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:e25d9971-bf95-4d97-9965-4f193474c586Post:9622488e-9a5b-46dc-abee-2be3f012a077">Re: Which one to invite them to?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Keep in mind that every female guest at your wedding does not need to be invited to the shower and/or b-party. 
    Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]

    THIS. 
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  • deb84deb84 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you are missing the point of a bachelorette party.  It is a night out (or in) with your closest friends.  If your closest friends are family (siblings, cousins, etc) then so be it.  You do not HAVE to invite anyone (well, except your wedding party-they should all be invited).  If you are not comfortable with them being there then don't invite them. 


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  • stephdonjonstephdonjon
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto what everyone else has said. No need to repeat it.
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