Maid of Honor

Re: Maid of Honor

• Girlie1030 member

  

  October 2012

  How are maid's of honors usually chosen?
  Who would you call at 3:00 am to help you hide a body?  That's your girl.  If you're answer is all 3, then don't have a MOH (or make them all MsOH). 
  
  How do their duties differ from those of the general bridesmaids?
  What duties are you thinking?  My MOHs only duties were to wear a dress, stand beside me, hand me H's ring and be the friend she's been for the last 19 years. 
  
  And finally, how do I tactfully, sincerely, and still lovingly break the news to the other girls that they will not be my maids of honor?
  If you decide to go with 1 MOH, you don't need to say a word to the other two girls. 

  

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• Ali092011 member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-of-honor-17?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:be531578-6c39-4db0-a9fd-8af183b86ff9Post:7c90cc6f-2945-48f4-be9c-2e54a57e5501">Maid of Honor</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm having a minor dilemma...already with choosing my wedding party. There are 3 ladies that are very near and dear to me which I am having a very difficult time choosing who should be my maid of honor. How are maid's of honors usually chosen? How do their duties differ from those of the general bridesmaids? And finally, how do I tactfully, sincerely, and still lovingly break the news to the other girls that they will not be my maids of honor? Thank you!
  Posted by caeresa[/QUOTE]
  
  If all three women are equally close to you, there is no need to choose a MOH. I automatically knew I wanted my sister as MOH, but if I didn't have a sister or we weren't close, I would still have just had my three other BMs as BMs, because I'd never be able to choose a MOH between the three of them (we're all equally close friends from college).
  
  MOH duties don't differ from BMs' duties. Any of your BMs/MOHs can <em>choose</em> to throw a shower, help with DIY stuff, go dress shopping with you, throw a bachelorette party, or anything else they volunteer for. It doesn't have to be the MOH. NONE of those activities are required, however, so keep that in mind. Your MOH and BMs are basically just "signing up" to stand next to you on your wedding day. :)
  
  If you do choose a MOH, DON'T "break the news" to the rest of your WP that they were not chosen. Simply ask them to do you the honor of being a bridesmaid. When they agree to be a bridesmaid, they are also acknowledging that they are not the MOH.
  
  Hope that helps!

  

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• LittleMissBridezilla

  

  October 2012

  I agree with everyone else. If someone doesn't stand out more than the others because they are all equally close, then don't choose a MOH. if you simply feel you HAVE to have a MOH and want to choose between the three... my recommendation would be to choose the one who you have known the longest.
  
  As everyone has mentioned, there are no duties for MOHs or BMs other than to purchase their dress, wear it, and show love and support on your big day. If they choose they will throw you any showers or bachelorette activities they'd like. If the three are close to each other as well, they may even choose to co-host the activities if none are specified as MOH.
  
  When or if you choose a MOH, like everyone has said, just don't tell anyone, don't breach the subject unless someone asks "oh who's the MOH" then you can say "oh it's (insert name)" and leave it at that. Truth be told in my opinion there is no need to explain yourself when you've chosen something for YOUR wedding and a true friend will not judge or hold a grudge over it.
  
  Just a helpful suggestion if you should choose to have a MOH and you still want to offer the other an honor greater than just being a BM, perhaps consider letting them do a reading at your wedding, or if they have a talent like singing, allow them to sing a heartfelt song during the reception. Maybe just something to make them feel "special" like youi feel they are.

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