Wedding Gift ?

pookey118 · February 2013

I ladies, I'm visiting from the Bump and hoping you can give me your opinion.

DH and I are attending my BFF's sister's wedding next weekend. The venue it's at isn't expensive, so we figured $50 would be an appropriate amount to give. However, we are on a pretty tight budget these days. They are registered at Kohl's, and I have a $30 gift card to there. Would it be okay to buy them a gift off their registry for that amount, and also include $20, or would that come off as cheap? It's the same amount at the end of the day, but I don't want to come across as a cheap guest. We had our share of those at our wedding, and I never want to do that to someone else! TY!

antibride2013 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]I ladies, I'm visiting from the Bump and hoping you can give me your opinion. DH and I are attending my BFF's sister's wedding next weekend. The venue it's at isn't expensive, so we figured $50 would be an appropriate amount to give. However, we are on a pretty tight budget these days. They are registered at Kohl's, and I have a $30 gift card to there. Would it be okay to buy them a gift off their registry for that amount, and also include $20, or would that come off as cheap? It's the same amount at the end of the day, but I don't want to come across as a cheap guest. We had our share of those at our wedding, and I never want to do that to someone else! TY!
Posted by pookey118[/QUOTE]

Gifts are not mandatory. No one has to get them anyting. I think your plan is just fine. BTW-including that there were "cheap guests" at your wedding, kinda rude. None of your guests had to get you anything either, and maybe your "cheap guests" were in the same situation as you and DH with tight budgets.

beardownbchs · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wedding-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:3f3b814a-096c-427d-80ff-29eb65a43971Post:401dd0ca-8de5-4554-84fd-e6bcc873007b">Re: Wedding Gift ?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Wedding Gift ? : Gifts are not mandatory. No one has to get them anyting. I think your plan is just fine. BTW-including that there were "cheap guests" at your wedding, kinda rude. None of your guests had to get you anything either, and maybe your "cheap guests" were in the same situation as you and DH with tight budgets.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This. And the "cover-your-plate-rule" is ridiculous. Get them what you can afford and hope that they're more gracious than you were.</div>

gymbugmj2k · February 2013

we had a few "cheap guests", but like PP said - they were mostly families who we knew were on tight budgets.
you are not obligated to give a certain amount at a wedding. yes, it is typically customary to cover the cost of dinner, but it's not a given rule.

that being said - a gift off the registry plus some cash in the card is just fine.

hoffse · February 2013

Yeah the monthly Kohl's cash sale is going on right now. So get them a $50 gift, spend your gift card, and you'll get $10 back in Kohl's cash you can use for whatever. That nets you $10. And ditto PPs - talking about cheap guests is not even close to being gracious.

mlg78 · February 2013

I agree -- $50 gift ($20 + $30 GC)...and try to be more thankful for those who gave you gifts to honor you on your special day.

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