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June 2012 Weddings
lnlaveque
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In serious need of help..,
I usually do not post. But I am a June 2 bride. Yay! My not so yay is we have hit a speed bump. About a year ago my mom and I had a huge disagreement about the seating chart. FI and his parents do not want one. Neither do I. My mother does. And feels that since she is MOB she should get whatever she wants. Let me give you some insight: My mom and FMIL threw our wedding shower for us. My mom planned everything and FMIL had no input on anything. But they split the cost of the shower. My sister who is my MOH did not like the dress I had picked out for my bridesmaids. Well first she said its your day I will wear whatever you're want. Then four days later told me she would not wear that dress. My mom told me that it wasnt fair to put her in a dress she didnt like so we went looking again. So I had to compromise what I wanted for her. Today my mom texted me and said she wanted a seating chart. And I said we already discussed this and we agreed that you can reserve a few tables. And she said no its not going to work. And so then she called me and said she was going to do what her and my dad felt was right. My future in law's have not asked for anything along the way of planning besides no seating chart. We do not want one neither. But no matter how I try to tell her it is about me and him she doesn't get it. Example: after telling her it is about me and FI that day and our love for each other she responded "yeah yeah yeah". I do not know how to get her to understand this without coming off as a complete you know what. I thought this issue was resolved. And I do not know why she is bringing it up again. But it feels like I am caught in the middle. And I do not want there to be hard feelings on either side. But his parents are upset it is an issue again. And his dad said that if she wants a seating chart that bad she can foot the entire bill herself parents are splitting the hall and decorations. And then each one is payin for different things. Flowers, photo, cake please help me before I lose my mind.
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Re: In serious need of help..,
How many guests are you inviting?
If your mom is paying for it then she should have some say in it too. I think your inlaws should back off and let you and your mom hash this out. It's not their place to get involved. You need to work this out with your mom on your own.
I'm sure your mom only has your best interest at heart and if you tell her you don't want a seating chart and you refuse to budge that she will eventually get over it.
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I understand what you are saying. As much as some people would like be formal at wedding . It is what you and your FI wants. I don't think you have to take sides but you should get what you want for YOUR WEDDING.
I am sorry that you have to compromise on YOUR DAY for someone elses wants, it sounds like you have already had to do that with the DRESS. I think if you do compromise it should only be assigned tables. ( Thats a happy medium) And I really don't believe you should have to. I understand your mother is paying half for the reception but, I would hope that she was funding to give you what YOU want not what she wants.
FWIW, we're doing what you suggested and everything is going to be fine. I've seen several wedding receptions work that way. No one has every felt slighted that they didn't get an assigned seat.
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Personally, I prefer assigned tables for several reasons:
1. Families don't get split up b/c people awkwardly seated themselves and left 1 or 2 open chairs at tables.
2. People don't have to go from table to table asking if seats are taken or not.
3. People don't end up sitting alone at a table. (This happened to me!)