Widow Bride to be

Re: Widow Bride to be

• MikesAngie member

  

  July 2012

  If you have a close relationship with them and they know your FI - invite them if you want.  It will be up to them to decline or accept. 

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• coopsbaby member

  

  July 2012

  If you'd like to invite them, then do!

  
  

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• ceceibson member

  

  July 2012

  I, too, am a widow.  My husband died of cancer 3 years ago July 15.  I am getting married August 18.

  
  

  I have 2 children with my late husband.  His parents live about 5 hours away but we see them as much, if not more, as we did before DH died.  FI understands the importance of maintaining the relationship with them.

  
  

  They are invited to the wedding, as are late DH's uncles & aunts. All are coming, which is wonderful.

  

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• AMHADB10 member

  

  July 2012

  I am also a window.  I lost my husband March of 2009.  Today, July 7, is actually our 6 year wedding anniversary.  Our baby girl was 2 months old when he past of cancer.  His parents, family and I are also probably closer now than we were before he past.  They are very supportive of my new relationship and will be invited.  I asked them who else they think I should invite because I didn't want to leave anyone out, but I also don't want to put them on the spot if they are not comfortable attending.  If you're comfortable with it, you in-laws are comfortable and your fiance is comfortable - invite away!    We are.

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• Rapunzil member

  

  September 2012

  Here's a different point of view, and perhaps its different for a man than a woman...
  
  My fiance is a Widower.  He has a 24 year old stepdaughter from his late wife who lives on her own and dosn't see very often.  When she does come to the house for holidays she will run off and cry about how she misses her mom and that she dosn't like me living in "her mothers house."  But otherwise she is cordial to me and I try to understand her feelings even though they make me feel like "the bad guy."  I don't bother her and she dosn't bother me.
  
  In the past he has told me about what wonderful people his late wife's family was.
  Of course, it was 2 years into our dating before his late wifes parents found out about me.  It is a sensitive subject and I absolutely understand that.  But it was kind of hard for me because I have my own comparison insecurities (late wife was very sexy, outgoing, etc.).  I am working on my issues and boy do I hope I come to terms soon!  LOL!
  
  Anyway, my fiance said that he might like to invite his late wife's parents and sister.  I almost had a heart attack!  I already have concerns of his stepdaughter making a scene at our small wedding, and to have his late wife's parents there I feel is completely inapropriate.  Not just for the fact that I am insecure, but why on earth would those people want to have emotions all drummed up over their deceased daughter.  And at my wedding which is supposed to be a happy occasion....?!
  
  Be it wrong or right, its how I feel and I cannot help it.  Pretty soon we will be finalizing the guest list and its gonna get brought up again.  I don't know what I am going to do. 

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• twsh94

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_widow-bride-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:c2b63fef-3efc-4fbf-9726-809b710e5836Post:23a52900-452d-46d8-8c86-829261e4676c">Widow Bride to be</a>:
  [QUOTE]First off I would like to start a fb group for widows who are remarring if anyone would be intrested let me know!  2nd...I am still close with my first husband's family.  I still see them, talk to them, we do Christmas, (well they dont really my first husband passed away Dec 23 so Christmas is not much)  they came to the hosp to see the baby when he was born.  Anyways my question...do I invite them to things?? 
  Posted by MandiNewMommy[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>I would be interested in a facebook group!</div>

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