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Kids or no kids...

lisaremmeslisaremmes
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in Massachusetts-Cape Cod
hey! Just wondering if anyone had an issue with deciding on whether or not to have kids at their wedding. My FI and I have a huge dilemma because we are very close to both our families who have a total of about 15-20 children under the age of 12! We will have my little sister and brother (9 and 5) in the wedding but any ideas on how to have them all included but not be too much to have all these hyper children running around! 
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  • KnittibellKnittibell
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    This is always a tough one. You can have your brother and sister in the wedding, and leave it at that. If you invite the kids of your other family members and there are 15-20 of them, then IMO you have to invite the kids of all guests. I love kids, but including all the kids we love would nearly triple our guest list and we can't afford it, so my nephew, who will be in the wedding, will be the only kid there.

    It's fine to just have the family members in the wedding as the only kids- and if you can't afford to invite all the children of all the ther guests, I'd leave it at that.
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  • BunsCheer03BunsCheer03 member
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    edited December 2011
    The only kids under 10 we are inviting are my nephews & our daughter(obviously cant leave her at home haha) Other than that. Kids Under 10 are a no-go. Would get to be way too big too quick. But its all about what you guys want & what type of reception you are having. If its place with enough space & you wanted to inivte them all you could always set up at kid friendly area with toys & activities to keep them occupied.
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  • amylee545amylee545 member
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I am having the SAME issue. My fiance and I are both very close to our families as well, and both have young nieces, nephews, and cousins. I think what we have decided is to have my little sister and brother (ages 7 and 11) be in the wedding party and not include any of our 7 nieces/nephews. Otherwise, it would turn into a circus of a wedding party if we included all of them! And we don't feel right including some but not all. We really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

    As far as guest list goes,  our nieces/nephews will be invited if our siblings want them there. If not, they are more than welcome to get a babysitter, which I think they all want to do so they can have fun :) For cousins, we're drawing the line at age 12. Otherwise, it gets too out of hand... and we can't afford to pay for all these kids to come.
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  • cdream05cdream05 member
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We didnt have kids at our wedding because it wasnt in our budget.  We had my brother he is 8, but he is immediate family
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  • MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    edited December 2011
    I would look into hiring a nanny service to be on site the day of the wedding. Is there a room you can use for kids games/food/fun? Keep in mind, many parents may not be comfortable leaving their children with a stranger, but if it is at the venue they may be more receptive.
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  • KnittibellKnittibell
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-cape-cod_kids-kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:94Discussion:26d2474a-8afa-4547-8245-fc0d2c441041Post:b19c3b91-a7af-4312-af23-f0d5fc75fc07">Re: Kids or no kids...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would look into hiring a nanny service to be on site the day of the wedding. Is there a room you can use for kids games/food/fun? Keep in mind, many parents may not be comfortable leaving their children with a stranger, but if it is at the venue they may be more receptive.
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    This is what I'm planning- looking at venues that are hotel/inn, so I can have baby sitters on site.
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  • lisaremmeslisaremmes
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone! I think I will try to arrange a nanny service. 
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  • lmw4253lmw4253
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No kids for us, there are too many. We just let everyone know ahead of time and they were all fine with it, actually happy for a night without kids.
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