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Invite Wording Dilemma

whinkle863whinkle863
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I am having an issue figuring out how to add my fiance's parents names on the invitation. My fiance and his mom are both insisting I put his ex-stepfather's name on the invitation because he was a big part of my fiance's life growing up. I cannot win this argument and just need to figure out the best way to word it.

Our invite is something similar to this:
Mr and Mrs Bride's Parents
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride
to
Groom
Son of
*Now this is where the issue is- I can't list the mom and ex-stepdad on the same line because they're divorced, but I know the mom's name is supposed to come first. I also can't list his ex-stepdad before his dad. So should I do: 
Son of
Groom's Father
Groom's Mother
Groom's Ex Stepdad

I know this is not the proper way to do it but I'm trying to make everyone happy.

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Re: Invite Wording Dilemma

  • MobKazMobKaz member
    Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    edited March 2013
    Are these significant people in your FI's life simply looking for acknowledgment? Recognizing these relationships might be better served, and more appropriate, if they are listed on a wedding/ceremony program. 

    In this case, you may be better off sticking to traditional "script" and leaving all mention of FI's family off the formal invitation.

    Mr. and Mrs. Bride's family
    request the honor of your presence
    at the marriage of their daughter
    Bride's name
    to
    Groom's name
    Saturday, the date

    If your parents have no issue, your other option is to use the generic version, and begin the invitation with....
    Together with their families
    Bride
    and
    Groom
    request the honor....

    Perhaps you could explain to your FI that the wedding invitation itself serves a limited purpose, and turning it into a "roster of key players" is not part of the invitation.  If that logic is paired with the compromise of acknowledging those people elsewhere, perhaps the idea will be more palatable.

    ETA:  I am by no means the "invitation protocol whisperer", so my rough drafts as to invitation wording have only been added to clarify the point of alternative options.
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  • beardownbchsbeardownbchs member
    500 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    The invitation is not the place to "honor" anyone. The only names on it should be the bride, groom and hosts. People don't spend more than 10 seconds reading an invitation and the less extra crap there is, the clearer they are. 

    The proper place to honor someone is the programs. If you weren't planning on doing them, I suggest buying some nice-ish paper and printing some off at home so you have a way of honoring everyone and making them happy. 
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