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Shower guests drama

Lauren19.Lauren19. member
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I'm going back to my hometown this weekend for a bridal shower with my side of the family. My FMIL hosted one for me last month for FI's side.

This morning I got a snarky message from my cousin upset that she wasn't invited to the hometown shower. She lives 8 hours away! I would NEVER expect someone to drive 8 hours just to go to a shower, and I think an invitation would look greedy. BTW, my MOH (sister) put together the invite list. Do I have to apoligize for not asking her to drive 8 hours and buy me a gift I really don't need anyway?

FWIW, she only lives 4 hours from FI's family, but I didn't think it'd be nice to add guests to my FMIL's shower. Aren't most people relieved they don't get invited to showers?
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Re: Shower guests drama

  • LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011
    I would probably just send her a message apologizing and saying you thought it would look gift grabby to send an invite to someone who lives so far away and that it wasn't meant to be insulting.

    It's rude of her to make the snarky comment, but just in light of keeping the peace, that's what I'd do.
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  • ejheartejheart member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with LoveMuffins. I would let her know that it wasn't meant to hurt her feelings, you just assumed it would be too far for her and didn't want her to think you just expected a gift to be sent. I think it's ok to apologize for not checking with her to see if she wanted an invite (family invites tend to be more casual and maybe she thought you would at least mention it to her verbally).

    Maybe let her know what other event(s) she will be invited to that are still upcoming. E.g. "We still have the bachelorette party coming up that you'll definitely be invited to now that I know you're willing to make the drive!"
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