I can't believe SO many members of my family are not coming to the wedding. I know it's a 6 hour drive from where most of them live, but I thought they would be willing to do that for my wedding. Right now out of about 40 aunts/ uncles/ cousins/ second cousins, I have MAYBE 4 family members coming. My family went out of our way to attend all of their weddings- I just thought they would do the same.
And the BS excuse of "I took too much time off over Christmas so can't come to the wedding" REALLY chaps my a$$ because we sent out effing STD's. THAT'S WHAT THEY'RE FOR!!! To plan ahead and save one lousy day of vacation.
Another awesome one was "That's my birthday and I already made plans." You made plans in OCTOBER before you received your STD for your May birthday?
Whatever. I'm just bummed because I never get to see my family and thought that this would be a great excuse to get everyone together.
Anyway- Thanks for listening

Re: Family Vent
That would chap my ass too. I am doing a lot of "I did this for them and they cannot even do that for me" thinking even though I try hard not to since it makes me feel petty and bitchy.
Also focusing on those who ARE coming instead of who isn't is helping. For example, I am widowed, and my first husband's parents and an aunt and uncle of his are traveling all the way from NY to NC to see ME get married. Little ole me! I am so touched by that.
I just try to remember, not everyone can be as awesome as us!
But I totally understand your frustration.
[QUOTE]That would chap my ass too. I am doing a lot of "I did this for them and they cannot even do that for me" thinking even though I try hard not to since it makes me feel petty and bitchy. I just try to remember, not everyone can be as awesome as us!
Posted by RivieraBound[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]I totally and completely understand where you are coming from. I sent my family STDs back in September (along with EVERYONE else), and a lot of them still aren't able to come even though I gave them 9 months notice. :/ I know everyone says, "Well, the people who will be there definitely WANT to be there", but it doesn't really make me feel better. I think it mostly just embarrasses me...we are going to have to have mixed seating because there will be like 10 people there for my side. I just feel like people will think, "Wow, her family doesn't give a crap about here because none of them showed up." I know when the day comes, I probably won't even notice...but it will probably hurt my feelings up until then. I'll get over it and I love them all just the same whether they show up or not, but it just sucks.
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]
<div>This, exactly.</div><div>
</div><div>We got another couple more no's over the weekend from more of my family. So it really will be just 4 people.</div><div>
</div><div>I was worried about inviting way too many people, but now we aren't even going to reach our lowest estimate- We' invited 188, were hoping for 120, expecting 150, and right now have just under 90.</div><div>
</div><div>I guess at least we'll save money on booze.</div>