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aquari0216 · January 2013

Ladies i posted this on the etiquette board because id love to see them heffas over there tell me how rude im being.....but i actually heed the input you all give over here, so i want your opinions....I began with....Ive seen alot of debates on the whole SO rule, I've mostly agreed on the no ring no bring with a great deal of exceptions. This time I have a FBIL with a 'SO' neither fiance or I want at our wedding due to a "dispute" between her and I prior to her also helping his ex vandalize my truck with over 2000 in damage. I pretty much decided she isn't worth the money we are spending so she can eat, drink and be merry on us. Just trying to see if ANYONE could convince me to allow her on the premises....because there's a tiny chance that if she comes, I will beat her ass in my wedding dress. Oh and fiance almost doesn't want to invite his brother because he would bring her, so I doubt he cares if he declines to come....should I invite him and this broad?

thedivav · January 2013

I say invite him not her

raven&mark · January 2013

I would invite him but she can go play in traffic. If he chooses not to come because of her then that's on him....

ladycane015 · January 2013

Agree with pp. I'd invite him & not the disrespectful heffa! And if he declines then thats one less person you have to pay for lol

keyaira04 · January 2013

I think that when family disputes, especially if the concern is the guest may turn physical, are a possibility regarding inviting people, keeping the peace trumps etiquette. It is also a personal and delicate decision by the hosts.

It appears you and your FI, who are the hosts, both take issue with your FBIL's girl being invited. The issue above appears to be valid and may cause drama on your bliss filled day. So I can understand as a couple your decision to not invite her. But I will say the flip side if the possibility FBIL may not attend and/or any resulting issues the brothers might have as a result. I know you addressed that point in your OP.. However, FI and you can address and reduce your concerns any way you see fit so that you both can enjoy your wedding day.

tirathemrs · January 2013

Id definitely invite him but it sounds like there may be a chance shes still going to come with him sooooo how about just dont invite either one of them and call it a day...O AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A SECURITY GUARD THERE JUST IN CASE THEY SHOW UP WITH THE DRAMA LET THEM HANDLE IT WHILE YOU DANCE THE NIGHT AWAY AND ENJOY YOUR DAY

aquari0216 · January 2013

In Response to Re:This SO right here:[QUOTE]I would invite him but she can go play in traffic. If he chooses not to come because of her then that's on him.... Posted by ravenmark[/QUOTE]
LOL! LOL! LOL!

aquari0216 · January 2013

In Response to Re:This SO right here:[QUOTE]I think that when family disputes, especiallynbsp;if the concern is the guest may turn physical, are a possibility regarding inviting people, keeping the peace trumpsnbsp;etiquette. It is also a personal and delicate decision by the hosts.nbsp;It appears you and your FI, who are the hosts, both take issue with your FBIL's girl being invited. The issue above appears to be valid and may cause drama on your bliss filled day. So I can understand as a couple your decision to not invite her. But I will say the flip side if the possibility FBIL may not attend and/or any resulting issues the brothers mightnbsp;have as a result. I know you addressed that point in your OP.. However, FI and you can address and reduce your concerns any way you see fit so that you both can enjoy your wedding day.nbsp; Posted by keyaira04[/QUOTE]

Thanks Key....i also forgot to mention that bro is a thief who's stolen from both of us when fiance let them both stay in his house....we have since moved and no one in that group including bm know where we live

aquari0216 · January 2013

In Response to Re:This SO right here:[QUOTE]Id definitely invite him but it sounds like there may be a chance shes still going to come with him sooooo how about just dont invite either one of them and call it a day...O AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A SECURITY GUARD THERE JUST IN CASE THEY SHOW UP WITH THE DRAMA LET THEM HANDLE IT WHILE YOU DANCE THE NIGHT AWAY AND ENJOY YOUR DAY Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]
We have a host with a guest list but was thinking about security for that and if bm chooses to make an appearance, esp seeing as the reception venue is less than a mile from her...hes a bit worried

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:This SO right here: Thanks Key....i also forgot to mention that bro is a thief who's stolen from both of us when fiance let them both stay in his house....we have since moved and no one in that group including bm know where we live
Posted by aquari0216[/QUOTE]

girl i was really finna say this here takes care of your entire question but. sigh. remembered that he's family so is it going to cause a problem with any of your inlaws if he's simply not invited? if so, how pressed are ya'll about anticipating the noise? i'm trying to think about it objectively, it's kind of a big deal not to invite a sibling to your wedding but (i'd think) it's an equally big (or bigger) deal that this same person can't be trusted with your address. yikes! i'mma need to send some prayers up, get my oil, all that. {hugs}

TL25 · January 2013

Invite him and A) don't put return address on envelope

include him on someone else's invite that's close to him (mom or dad's) C) don't send him an invite just have FI tell him when, where n what time you'll be expecting him. He's a guy I doubt that he cares about the actual invite.

M1ssJ · January 2013

I'd send a nice picture after the wedding... photo shop them in if you please.... if you invite anyone its the brother alone and you'll need a guard for your card box

aquari0216 · January 2013

In Response to Re:This SO right here:[QUOTE]I'd send a nice picture after the wedding... photo shop them in if you please.... if you invite anyone its the brother alone and you'll need a guard for your card box Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]
Lmao!!!

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