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Guy's Night
My fiance has a poker night twice a month, he invites guys from work. I usually go out with friends or stay upstairs. About a week ago one of his female co-workers found out about poker night and asked to be invited. My fiance said that only guys come and she threw a fit about not being invited and said he was sexist.
My feeling is if he invited her then he should also invite the wives of all the men that attend (about 10 guys come consistently, my guy being the only one that is not married).
So now we have a dilemma. Does he keep it a guy's event, do we make it co-ed, or no longer host it.
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Re: Guy's Night
As far as I can see, the guys sit around and play poker. He has every right to invite who he wants. It's not a wedding and I seriously don't see why he should invite wives and/or this random chick who wants to come. If she's that bent out of shape over it, she can organize her own poker event and invte whomever she wants.
I mean, chick is rude and sounds pretty crazy, but if she's going to pitch a fit and make work difficult, then maybe it's a good compromise.
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She's not his wife, she doesn't get to bitch at him for not inviting her somewhere. Does she invite him to every get-together she has?
[QUOTE]I'm so not the right person to ask about this because the terms "guys' night" and "girls;'night" make my skin crawl. As far as I can see, the guys sit around and play poker. <strong>He has every right to invite who he wants.</strong> It's not a wedding and I seriously don't see why he should invite wives and/or this random chick who wants to come. If she's that bent out of shape over it, she can organize her own poker event and invte whomever she wants.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
Yep, this. It's a private event and he has the right to invite whoever he wants to his house.
My advice is he, and the rest of the guys, should stop talkin about poker night in front of people who aren't invited. This is a good rule of thumb for any event where not everyone is invited because people start to feel excluded.
[QUOTE]Several spouses do not like her because she is single and has made passes at people's husbands. (That is a whole other issue) My fiance thinks that if he just invites her and it is all guys and just her that the guys wives will be upset at the situation and then poker night will no longer happen because the wives are mad. My fiance asked several women he works with about it and they all said they had no desire to come over for poker night.
Posted by teralicious[/QUOTE]
Oh good grief. If this girl is going to hook up with someone's husband, then she's going to do it whether poker night is involved or not. I'm seriously rolling my eyes.
Tell him to invite whoever he wants and to just keep his mouth shut in front of her.
If your husband wants to keep it to guys, then keep it to guys. If your husband wants to keep it to poker players, then keep it to poker players. But what I don't understand is if said poker play is a girl, then why would non poker females then have to come?
But anyway - it's not the point :-)
If he wants to invite just the guys, that's his choice. I think it's fine.
As someone who is "one of the guys" I've come to accept that while I'm totally "one of the guys" I'm not actually a guy. Therefore, I'm never going to totally be accepted into their inner circle. It is what it is.
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Tell her to get over herself; get a life and plan her own function and stop looking for other people to whine at when things don't go her way.