Hi everyone!
I recently got engaged to my highschool sweetheart. We've been friends for 9 years and dating for 6. When we announce our engagment, my mom didn't seem to happy. For a few days after we barely spoke, which is hard since I still live with her. It's sort of a hit or miss, somedays she talks a lot other days she doesn't talk heardly at all to me and doesn't want to be around me. She seems to get really quiet whenI bring up anything about the wedding. It's becoming very frustrating, since I'll bring something up and she acts like she doesn't care, which is odd since she has always been so supportive growing up. Whenever I talk about my ideas she either cuts them down, calling them weird or not the traditional way people do things, or just doesn't speak. She considers herself open minded but the more I plan the wedding, the more close minded and old fashioned she's becoming, like she doesn't believe in when the bride and groom shove cake in each others faces as an example. Plus on top of it all, she very much dislikes my FMIL for reasons I don't even know. They have spoken to each other maybe once, and my FMIL is an easy person to like. I want to invite my FMIL to help pick out a dress since she onyl has a son and wants to be involved, but my mom thinks its not her place to be involved in the planning, but I'm doing the planning and paying for almost everything! I really don't know what to do! I've been so sad, but my fiance tells me not to worry, it's our wedding, we will do what we want to do.