is this normal?

catwine · September 2012

Our RSVP deadline is Sept 28 and we have all but 4 replies! Of the 50-ish cards we sent 6 have said no. I've read that you should plan for 20% of the guests to RSVP no...which i think is silly! Why not plan for them all to say yes!

So I'm just curious what you all got for YES and No

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

You're definitely supposed to plan for everyone to attend, and good for you for doing that. My deadline is Monday and I'm still waiting for 80 cards (I sent ~150). Of those that have responded, it's been 73% yes and 27% no. However, we did send quite a few invitations to people we knew would be unable to attend due to distance, money, or health.

It's great that you have nearly all of your replies, and even better that so many of them are yeses!

schnugglebug · September 2012

about 95 % said yes... about 5% no... which is what we expected

we sent Invites to those even though we figured they would say No... Our Deadline was August 6th... then we sent out our second batch of invites... Deadline Sept 6th... and heard back from all...

in total we had planned for 115 we have 100... that's perfect for us

brainybrunette · September 2012

We actually have about a 30% decline rate...we invited quite a few out of town guests who can't make it and we invited all single guests with a +1 and most of them aren't bringing a +1. We knew that a lot of the OOT people probably wouldn't be able to come but it would have been rude not to invite them. Also, most of the single people who aren't bringing a +1 we figured wouldn't bring anyone, but we still gave them the option anyway as it would have been rude not to. We would have been prepared if everyone did say yes, but we knew that it was highly unlikely.

achiduck · September 2012

We budgted for 100% of the guest list but we had an 18% decline rate which was much higher than I was expecting. We've been able to save that money now since there isn't anything we'd like to add to the wedding.

mana8503 · September 2012

We're at a 40% decline rate. A lot of our families were OOT (maybe like 50 of the the 200), so I figured between 125-150 would come. We're at 115 with 2 maybes. We didnt make our 125 minimum.

aro1589 · September 2012

so far we have 71 yeses and 6 nos. still waiting on 56 cards though!

MegenQ · September 2012

Including vendors we have 115, and we have received all but 2 or 3, and out of those I think we are at 15 not coming.

lehc723 · September 2012

We had just about 20%. Some we knew wouldn't be able to, but we wanted to let them know they were invited should they be able to for some reason.

reagane02 · September 2012

We planned for full attendnce but got a shocking 47% of declines. It kind of bums me out even though we expected quite a few of declines, just not quite so many. However, in the end its still going to be great because the people that we REALLY wanted there will be.

goatlady12 · September 2012

We are still waiting on 129 people to RSVP, deadline is Oct 1. Of the 182 RSVPs we've gotten we only have about a 8% decline rate. But people usually hold nos longer.

LadyElite · September 2012

Just be warned that even though you got a 'yes', that could turn into a 'no' on the day of the wedding. From what I'm told (and I've experienced with friends) there's still not always 100% attendance of your replied RSVPs as anything can happen (sick baby, dog, accident, etc.)

islandmonkey8 · September 2012

We have a 20% decline, most expected or were "and guests" people chose not to include.

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_is-this-normal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:3dace81a-c5ea-4bea-8718-f7ab65806455Post:e933318b-a954-4487-948b-273a52f3f52b">Re: is this normal?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just be warned that even though you got a 'yes', that could turn into a 'no' on the day of the wedding. From what I'm told (and I've experienced with friends) there's still not always 100% attendance of your replied RSVPs as anything can happen (sick baby, dog, accident, etc.)
Posted by LadyElite[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes sh*t happens, but you don't count on it and order one less meal. </div>

alyssabugg · September 2012

We invited 150 and had a 23% decline rate. Not bad since 50% of the wedding is out of town.

alyssabugg · September 2012

We invited 150 and had a 23% decline rate. Not bad since 50% of the wedding is out of town.

bkhokie27 · September 2012

Overall, we have had a 92% positive return rate on our invitations. Like you, I planned for everyone to say yes. Our venue allows for 25 people total and we only have 3 people not coming.

mlperkins12 · September 2012

We planned for everyone to attend. I ordered favors, chair covers (which I purchased), etc. for 150 people. We ended up with at 26% decline rate which I thought was a little high, but we are getting married on a holiday weekend and that has had a negative effect in a few cases.

nitecheese · September 2012

We have a lot of OOT guests as well. Our percentage of regrets was just over 20%. I'm glad you have so many people who are able to share in this wonderful weddingyness. (Sorry, after grading papers and writing thank you notes, my brain is mush!)

hllokttygirl · September 2012

We have 3% decline rate so far with 97% coming. I am still waiting on a few to respond.

ccarrion77 · September 2012

We had about 20 percent decline, about what we expected with so many OOT guests. But we planned for everyone just incase. I have a friend getting married next weekend that out of about 200 only 4 declined, she planned for more nos and is now in trouble.... Has to have 2 separate rooms for dinner, NOT good.

pockysquirrel · September 2012

We ended up with a 26% decline rate, but we also 'maxed out' our guest list when we made it...i.e. accounting for +1's and inviting kids, that sort of thing. Most of the declines were people who decided not to bring a guest and couples who decided to leave the kids at home and make a grownups night out of it.

violakat03 · September 2012

We're at a 41% decline rate so far, but with 90 still out there's a good chance it will change pretty dramatically. If every single person returns a yes from here on out, it'll drop to 23%, but I highly doubt that will happen. I think we'll end with somewhere around 30-35% declines, which is higher than we planned for but kind of a relief since our budget shrunk dramatically over the last few months thanks to our significantly reduced income.

megagliardi · September 2012

We were pretty much the average - we had about 10% decline and although there are a few in there i'm bummed about, it brings our number from 170 (which was the max the venue could hold) to 150+ which i think is more breathable.

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