Soon to be sister in law????

Strv2perfection · March 2012

Do I have to ask her to be a bridesmaid? Or any of his female cousins? He doesn't care if I ask her or not? I don't really know her and he doesn't have much of a relationship with her.

dumdumfroggie · March 2012

No, based on what you said I wouldn't invite her.

Your WP should be your nearest and dearest friends.

snr1 · March 2012

No you definitely don't have to. my FI's brother asked if I would have his GF as my bridesmaid. I was like "whaaat?" I barely know the girl. Your bridesmaids should be your closest friends or family.

Meegles4 · March 2012

Agree that your BMs should be your closest friends/family. That being said, you might also want to think about whether it will damage yours or FI's relationship with his family. Will the sister or any of the other ladies be hurt? In that case I'd maybe include them for the sake of the long-term relationship, but that's just me.

In this case, it sounds like that wouldn't be an issue, but it's something to think about.

MiksChick23 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_soon-to-be-sister-in-law?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d92f850-0772-45a6-aeeb-7dcaf3927472Post:fec7a2b1-f9ac-4d9b-849a-e38682264900">Soon to be sister in law????</a>:
[QUOTE]Do I have to ask her to be a bridesmaid? Or any of his female cousins? He doesn't care if I ask her or not? I don't really know her and he doesn't have much of a relationship with her.
Posted by Strv2perfection[/QUOTE]

No, you do not have to. It is ENTIRELY up to you!

We decided to include all siblings in our wedding b/c despite that i'm not super close with my FSILs, I care about them and know they will be an important part of my life from here on out. They were both beyond honored so I think it was a great move on my part.

PS. I don't agree with the "sides" thing. I see them as OUR wedding party, not "my side" and "his side". Everyone in our WP is a MUTUAL friend or family member, so we are having the girls stand by me and the guys by him. Other people may tell you to choose YOUR friends and family for "your side" but that's not how I see it.

Avion22 · March 2012

If you are close with her, then it's a nice gesture to ask her, but you are under no obligation. Having people in your wedding party that you aren't super-close with can cause problems. If your fiance wants his sister to stand up with HIM (as a grooms-woman) then that's cool. A lot of people are doing this now

Maggie0829 · March 2012

Nope. I didn't ask mine and all was fine.

bencomobride · March 2012

brides maids are YOUR girls. if you dont want someone to be part of the party... they dont have to be

Strv2perfection · March 2012

Thank ladies.

mgg242 · March 2012

I wasn't close with one of my FSIL's either. Wasn't planning on asking her to be in the wedding. Then one night when I was dress shopping (she asked to come) my mom overheard her talking. She told the lady at the store that she was in the wedding party. To avoid a fight I just left it!

I agree with pp, you don't need to ask if you don't want to.

Laurstar31 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_soon-to-be-sister-in-law?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d92f850-0772-45a6-aeeb-7dcaf3927472Post:172b45d7-dd89-4e4a-8ed3-76c94678cf16">Re: Soon to be sister in law????</a>:
[QUOTE]No you definitely don't have to. my FI's brother asked if I would have his GF as my bridesmaid. I was like "whaaat?" I barely know the girl. Your bridesmaids should be your closest friends or family.
Posted by snr1[/QUOTE]

this made me giggle alittle bit! that is so odd! I have heard of family members being in each other's wedding party but not girlfriends..what if they had broken up a week later and she is in all your pictures..yikes! My fiance is having my brother in law and my 2 cousins in his because he likes them and it was his idea :) but you have no pressure darling, its your time so shine and you can pick :)!

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