ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF

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• cu97tiger member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  I'm sorry you're going through this. To be blunt, if you aren't feeling this relationship anymore, than you need to be honest with him. You're selling yourself short if you aren't happy but stick around. 

  
  

  A couple side notes: there's a spellcheck option at the bottom of the posting section. It will help people understand what you're trying to convey. (I'm guessing that 4rm means from?) Secondly, I'm not sure if you were just venting or if you truly want the advice of internet strangers in this situation. I hope it's the former, because this is a pretty big life decision to trust to people you don't know.

  
  

  ETA: It would probably be a great idea if your address really is 3222 W. whatever street that you deleted this account and started a new one that didn't have identifying informaiton in your screen name.

  

  
  

  

  
  

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• ravenray member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_engagement-called-off?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c2e75555-1e7d-4127-b14b-f4cd5f1bb460Post:c4ddd34d-c440-4737-b43a-799d5743321a">ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF</a>:
  [QUOTE]Im beyond torn and havnt gone on here in months. Me and my fiance broke up. Long story short we broke up in september and I left October 21,2012 and 10 days later he blew my phone up beggin m back and etc. Of course i made him work for it but we got back 2gether and I told him he needs to work 2 call me his fiance again. It lasted a couple weeks and he got comfortable again leading to another break up this valentines day 2013. Its never been the same since and now Im pregnant and have no idea what to do. When we were in love It was perfect. I have never felt for a man the way I did this one.We still live under the same roof and sleep in the same bed, heck were in intimate at times but I dont know how to get the old us back. This is teh 2nd time around and I told my self If i ever left again then I cant look back or else he will always think he has me. Which he thinks he does. I dont want to leave cuhs It will be goodbye to our love we once had but I know this isnt love. so confused, Needed to vent and advice 4rm a outside source.
  Posted by 3222w27thst[/QUOTE]
  <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:8.5pt;line-height:115%;">I'm really sorry things are so tough right now.  Did you break up because he needed to change and didn't?  Tiger is right; you do need to be honest with him.  Have you thought about going to counseling if you are both willing to work on the relationship?</span> </p>

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• Elle1036 member

  

  March 2013

  2gether? 4rm? Cuhs?

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• 3222w27thst

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_engagement-called-off?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:c2e75555-1e7d-4127-b14b-f4cd5f1bb460Post:6df1744a-ceb4-422a-b9ae-e43455f6fa61">Re: ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm sorry you're going through this. To be blunt, if you aren't feeling this relationship anymore, than you need to be honest with him. You're selling yourself short if you aren't happy but stick around.  A couple side notes: there's a spellcheck option at the bottom of the posting section. It will help people understand what you're trying to convey. (I'm guessing that 4rm means from?) Secondly, I'm not sure if you were just venting or if you truly want the advice of internet strangers in this situation. I hope it's the former, because this is a pretty big life decision to trust to people you don't know. ETA: It would probably be a great idea if your address really is 3222 W. whatever street that you deleted this account and started a new one that didn't have identifying informaiton in your screen name.
  Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
  
  Both venting and advice and honestly I do feel like Im waisting my time but on the other hand I keep thinking of how happy we used to be. I personally feel a man doesnt propose to you for no reason and just believe if you have loved once then its possible to love that someone again. Last time i left he begged and cried for me back, Is that going to happen again.. No worries its not my address, It was a house my grandfather built that my family no longer has. But thanks anyway

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• 3222w27thst

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_engagement-called-off?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:c2e75555-1e7d-4127-b14b-f4cd5f1bb460Post:44cd741d-f305-4e93-bf22-ed617c87d555">Re:ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF</a>:
  [QUOTE]2gether? 4rm? Cuhs?
  Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
  
  Its the internet. 4rm lol and etc but I changed my words for those who seem to not understand that 2gether means together

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• 3222w27thst

  

  March 2013

  It was valentines day when i broke up with him. He didnt want to go out and I asked him what happen to us. He basacilly said he wishes I would leave. Like I was saying last i left in October he begged me back. I also took a break from him in january 2013 and he was missing me again. Yes thats why we broke up cause I needed him to change but he hasnt. I feel like I deserve better and took alot from him but what women wants to walk away from her 1st fiance. We tried counseling and every time we went it was perfect, we both applied it to our daly rountine and you could see results but he doesnt want to go back.
  
  
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  [QUOTE]In Response to ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF : I'm really sorry things are so tough right now.  Did you break up because he needed to change and didn't?  Tiger is right; you do need to be honest with him.  Have you thought about going to counseling if you are both willing to work on the relationship?
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• JBSMADA10 member

  

  March 2013

  May I let you know something about relationships. Relationships are hard work and I believe if you or your SO gives up every time there is a problem then you aren't ready for marriage and frankly shouldn't be together unless you can mature enough to learn on working out issues without giving up and running away.

  

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• hockeywithadiamond member

  

  March 2013

  ^ditto.... sounds like both of you need to mature some to make this relationship work.  I have never gone back to an ex before so I have nothing to add on that front.

  
  

  Does he know you're pregnant with his kid?

   

   

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• kmbryant2413 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_engagement-called-off?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c2e75555-1e7d-4127-b14b-f4cd5f1bb460Post:44cd741d-f305-4e93-bf22-ed617c87d555">Re:ENGAGEMENT CALLED OFF</a>:
  [QUOTE]2gether? 4rm? Cuhs?
  Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This, basically.</div>

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• Stina51286 member

  

  March 2013

  MUD?
  

   

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• richellesmiley member

  

  April 2013

  I'm sorry you had to go through all that. Break ups are hard but even worse when its an engagement. Took me 8 months after breaking up with my exfiance before getting back out there. Just hang in there.

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