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imJacksPGbelly · April 2011

So, I just kind of lurk on here to glean info.. you gals are great for that.

anyway, I post more over on the NEY board b/c BF hasn't popped the "official" ring-included question yet. He's asked, I've said yes, we know we want to get married next summer sometime (probably June/July), and we are most likely going to do a small Hawaii wedding. It's a second wedding for both of us, and we each have a child who would LOVE to go to Hawaii (not to mention being devastated if they found out we went there on a honeymoon and they didn't get to go. lol). So, this way, they can be there with us for part of it.

The problem I'm having is.. I am not going to start planning really (other than daydreaming and brainstorming), until there is an actual ring on my finger. But that may not be until Fall. How difficult would it be to plan a destination wedding in Hawaii in 6-8 months?

I know that one of the major considerations would whether our close loved ones could make it on that short of notice, so I've "whispered it" to a few of my closest friends, and parents, so the idea is in their heads for next summer. And hopefully that will be sufficient for now, since we don't have a date to STD for..

So, back to my main question.. what kind of obstacles might I run into with leaving only 6-8 months to plan a destination wedding in Hawaii?

TIA
-J

breaness · April 2011

You should be just fine! Especially if it's a smaller wedding and you use a wedding coordinator. We're only having a 10 month engagement and everything's pretty much done already, and has been for a while. It only took a couple of weeks to get everything hammered down.

The more involved the wedding, the more involved the planning. We're just having a simple beach ceremony on a more secluded public beach. We're going to have flowers, I'm getting my hair and makeup done, and we're having the officiant but we're not doing a reception in Hawaii, just a nice dinner. If we were doing the reception there there'd be a lot more to plan.

If you're going to have a wedding coordinator and are okay with them taking care of everything it's totally more than doable in that time! You'll be just fine

ETA: Welcome!

imJacksPGbelly · April 2011

I sound like a totaly noob, but was is "ETA".. I just looked on the FAQs to see if it was one of hte acronyms listed, and it's not. I see a lot of people post it and have never had any idea what it means.. The only way I've ever seen ETA as an acronym was "Estimated Time of Arrival" :P

cryssv · April 2011

Yup I agree with Brea. Our actual HI part of planning was done in just a couple of phone calls/emails with a planner for a small, simple wedding

No clue what ETA means : )

motoLyn · April 2011

Hi there again. Planning won't be that tough if you're having a small wedding. No need to worry, also having a local Hawaii coordinator will be of much help as well. I think ETA means something along the lines of Brea adding something else on after she posted hence "editing". But that's my guess.

Tanq&Tonic · April 2011

WELCOME!!!

6-8 months should be no problem at all. Our entire wedding was planned in about 7 and it was pretty elaborate. In fact, most decisions and vendors didn't kick into gear until the last 3 months.

ETA = edited to add...

AKWinterBride · April 2011

I agree, you have plenty of time! I planned ALL of my wedding in about 2 weeks. I knew what I wanted and really went hard core to get all of the vendors I wanted.

sparklegirl84 · April 2011

You should be fine. We have a 9 month engagement, 30 guests, no planner & we hired all of our vendors. Oh and welcome to the board!

ninja500 · April 2011

We planned our wedding in 4 months and everything worked out perfectly for us. You'll be fine.

imJacksPGbelly · April 2011

Sweet! Thanks everyone. I guess I'll just sit back and relax for now, and not worry about planning. Doesn't mean I won't dabble here and there just for fun, though.

Can't help it. haha

I love seeing all the things that you all are putting together for your HI weddings.

carrieoz_76 · April 2011

You can totally plan a wedding in that time in Hawaii. In fact, many vendors don't really get serious (other than making bookings) until about 3 months out. It's common for people to book Hawaii vendors about 6-8 mos. out, so I think you'll be fine with that aspect of things.

The only issue you could have is making things difficult for friends/family who you want to be there with you. If you don't let some people know about a year out, it can make it a financial hardship on them to try to come up with the money for a trip like this in less time. And while whispering to them is nice, I wouldn't take someting like that seriously enough to actually save for a trip until I knew the couple was actually engaged, had picked a date, and was firm on their location. Until then, it's just not real to most people (besides you).

So if you don't firm things up until 6-8 mos. out you either have to accept that some people that you'd like to be there might not be able to come, or move your date out. I would probably move the date out myself because it was really important that some of my closest friends be there, and they really needed the year to save up travel points and/or money for the trip.

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