How important is the JOP?

bopple321 · March 2013

Hi Everyone, My fiance and I are getting married by a JOP and now is about that time when I have to try and book one. I went to a bridal expo held by my venue a few weeks ago and met a JOP there. I'm trying to set up an appointment to meet with him, but I'm not honestly sure what I should ask or talk about. Do people traditionally interview multiple JOPs? This is the only one that I know of in the area, so far. What's the process like? Thanks!

swimmy1988 · March 2013

I didn't interview any JPs before choosing. A woman who works in my mom's office is a JP and my mom asked her to officiate my wedding and she said yes.

Questions you can ask though are what is typically included in the ceremonies they officiate. Can ask what kind of vows would be said or if you're allowed to write your own (if that's what you want to do). Can also ask about what kind of music is appropriate. Should also ask about cost.

Hope this helps!

MrsGandthebeag · March 2013

I talked to a few over the phone. Basically I asked them how much they charged and what their typical ceremony looked like. I also asked them if the fee included the rehersal and also if there were any meetings prior to the rehersal.

bopple321 · March 2013

Thanks all! What's a good way for going about finding other JPs if I speak with this one and it's not a great match? I know I could check the phone book, but do any of you have other tips?

Knottie_22382102 · March 2013

Sometimes the JP really makes the wedding memorable. I only remember the ceremony for one wedding that I went to and it's because the officiant made me bawl with how beautiful his commentary was. I just didn't grab enough tissues.

I'd like ours to be memorable to people, but pricing is important to me too. I hired a comedian that did this amazing sketch about couples that I thought would be great for entertainment after dinner. We found out through the conversation that he also is a JP and a DJ and I could see him as both. I didn't want a comedy ceremony so I interviewd him pretty extensively about what he would say and he sent me some examples and the vows and there's 2 giggles that are cute but other than that pretty standard. I think mainly I was comfortable with him, hes got good energy and he is a good speaker.

HobokensFury · March 2013

We were very specific as to what we wanted our ceremony to look like so we carefully interview a few people.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

We are using a pastor but having a non-religious ceremony. I didn't interview anyone. My mom had seen this pastor offiicate her friend's daughter's wedding and said he did a good job, so fiance and I met with him and booked him that day.

It depends on who you book I guess but our pastor will work with whatever we wanted. If we wanted religious he could do religious, if we want no religious elements (which we are having), he can do that too or he can do a mix. He also gave us a list of readings- half religious/half-non and different kinds of things we can add to the ceremony like a unity candle or unity sand, breaking the glass (usually a jewish tradition) or any other crazy thing we wanted.

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