So my parents have been divorced since I was really young and both remarried their current spouses when I was in middle school. I feel very close to my mom and my stepmom both, and I want to include both of them in the planning process.
The other day when we were shopping for my bridal gown the other day I realized that my mom is really offended by my step mom's presense in the wedding process. I had some idea that my mom would want some alone time between the two of us, so I made an appointment a few hours ahead of my others and the two of us had special alone time. However, my mom was still so distracted by my step-mom's presence later that when I found my dress, she wasn't even happy for me. In fact, I think she's upset because I didn't choose a dress that she loved.
Now my step mom wants to throw me a shower, but she wants to include my mother in the process, and I know my mom will be upset because, even though she doesn't have a single idea as to when or where, she wants to plan the shower with my MOH.
Any good ideas on how to ease the tension?