Hey everyone,
I need help. My wedding is four months away and I am having cold feet. My parents do not like my fiance because they think he is lazy. He has an MFA and does not yet have a full time job, and he has been out of grad school for at least 2 years. Granted, he was kind of lazy before we started dating, he should have gotten a job but he was really depressed. Now he is working at a senior care company and he hates it, he is trying his best to find a full time job but we are honestly not having any luck.My parents just think that he is not trying hard enough and that he always has excuses for why he doesn't have a job. They are tired of hearing that he is "trying" to find a job, and they tell me that i should postpone the wedding a year until we are more stable financially. The sad reality is, they are right. When we get married, I want to be independant, and there is no way we can do that now. Our rent is 550 a month, and right now we are paying 300 of that and my parents are paying the rest, which we can handle, but we can't possibly pay the whole thing ourselves. Plus, we just got a dog, so we have to have emergency money in case she gets sick. I'm worried that when we get married my parents are not going to want to help us anymore, even though I know they will never leave us on our own. I am seriously considering postponing it, but my fiance is strongly against it, and he got really depressed when I talked to him about it. I hate seeing him that sad, and I do love him more than anything. I know that we will stick together through anything, so I am not worried about divorce, I just don't want to put ourselves in a difficult situation. I know this is a decision I need to make myself, but I wanted to hear what other people had to say about it. I am really torn between logic and what my heart says to do.