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Kinda sad, Bridal Shower related

Let me just say I am totally against bridal showers. My FI told me there was no getting out of it with his family so just smile and say thank you. Ok, with that said I made him promise to at least tell me when it will be so I'm prepared. I dont like surprises and I really dont like corny bridal showers. So FI just called me to tell me that they decided to not throw the party. Phewww..Huge relief for me. Especially knowing no one will be wasting money on something ridiculous. (sorry if i offend anyone who loves bridal showers)

Then I find out the reason behind it. Apparantley no one wants to lend a hand in the planning. My MOH who is my soon to be sister in law, and my mother in law were doing everything, including paying for it. They asked for help from my BM's who turned them down and my own mother who turned them down. They couldn't afford to do it all on their own so they had to ditch the idea. Everyone wanted nothing to do with it.
 
I dont want the party in the first place but the part that upsets me is that no one cares or gives a s**t to be part of it. I feel very unimportant to all of them,excluding my MOH and MIL. I'm the most laid back person and the total anti-bridezilla. I really couldn't make the whole weddiing process any easier for everyone. I'm very accommodating, so why aren't they? It just hurts my feelings alittle. If this was the other way around I would be happy to help out and show I care.

I had to get it out, sorry it was so long.

Re: Kinda sad, Bridal Shower related

  • That is pretty lousy of them not to contribute to throw you a shower.
  • I'm so sorry to hear that! I completely understand that it isn't the actual event, but the fact that so many people weren't willing to put forth a little effort. Maybe you should let the 'zilla out a bit. Maybe in some way or another, sweetly tell them all or show them all how much this all really means to you and how much you rely on and appreciate their support. A little well-meant guilt trip can go a long way.
  • Do your BMs and Mom know how you feel about showers?  If so maybe they thought they were respecting your wishes by not being part of something you hate.

    I'm not a fan of showers either. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_kinda-sad-bridal-shower-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:b511c864-2337-4158-88af-aa606f986244Post:21962b57-38a3-40bd-be6b-2cc1beb44d39">Re: Kinda sad, Bridal Shower related</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do your BMs and Mom know how you feel about showers?  If so maybe they thought they were respecting your wishes by not being part of something you hate. I'm not a fan of showers either. 
    Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]

    I did consider this but the whole shower my MOH and MIL was planning wasn't really a shower. My FI told me it was just lunch at this lounge type restaurant in our area. No dumb games, stupid hats with bows or even opening presents in front of everyone. they were just planning lunch so I wouldn't run out the door. LOL. Was that really so hard for everyone to go along with? I just dont get it.
  • Yes I did. I'm happy about that part. What bothers me is that no one seemed to care. I'm leaving out exactly how rude they were to my MOH and MIL about not contributing. Downright nasty about it
  • That is kinda sad, you're right. I guess be careful what you wish for, though....I'm also not a fan of showers (for any reason, really)....but if someone was trying to put on a lunch to celebrate my getting married & people who supposedly love me were like "Uhhh, no, we're not helping with that." ...I might be pretty pissed about it.

    <3 sorry you it had to happen/you had to hear about it/your WP&mom had to suck so much.
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