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Help.....A wedding shower question

debi1941debi1941 member
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My girlfriends daughter just announced she and her love are getting married Feb 26, 13 days after me....they are 20 and 21 yrs old......

I want  so much to have a shower for her....although time is short and I am so busy with the holidays and my own wedding.....

Question is....How do they do showers now a days? Do they have themes? In the "olden" days when I was first married we had general showers, personal showers and the "round the clock" showers...lol

Any fresh ideas wondering out around there?

Any ideas are truly appreciated, I have like a week or so to get an idea and get moving on it.

Debi
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Re: Help.....A wedding shower question

  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary Name Dropper 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    The showers that I have seen recent posts for have either had a theme, incorporated the wedding colors, been a couples shower, or a tea.

    I haven't been to a shower in ages, and I haven't ever had one! LOL 

    HTH  Good luck with your plans.
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  • tjrainestjraines
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    edited December 2011
    The last one that I went to was a "tea" and we all brought our favorite recipe for the brides receipe book.

    Tonya
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011

    Well said RetreadBride, I agree 100%.

    Because they are younger, I'd recommend having one shower that incorporates everyone, unless his family is giving them one. In other words, it can be a couples shower, friends & family shower all together. I don't think you have to worry about what YOU recall from the "olden days" and what happens today. You are being thoughtful in planning something so close to your own wedding, and whatever you do will be appreciated.


    I'd talk to the bride and ask her what she wants. Again, because of her age, unless she's had friends get married, she's probably not familiar with the lingo and style.


    You could also check the link for "Pre-Wedding Parties" in Special Topic Wedding Board to get a feel for what everyone is talking about. But I agree, after reading this, if you don't want to get caught up by the wedding industry, do what you want.


    Good luck.

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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_helpa-wedding-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:89bc8630-14f3-4288-a939-1f6bf93b2c68Post:b6284a05-420c-424b-91cd-b4353b07910d">Re: Help.....A wedding shower question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Themes are largely driven by the wedding industry. I find them rather cheesy...like a kid's birthday party, and I hate showers that extend to the gifts. I don't like being told what gift to bring. What anyone remembers about any party is the food and drinks. Feed people well, and you can't go wrong. Use "theme" for the food....like a Mexican buffet, Italian wine festival, etc.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    I'm like you on the dislike for being told what gift to bring.  No matter what the theme, I usually get a sexy nightgown for the bride.  Every once in a while, someone actually has a lingerie theme and then I'm tempted to get stem ware.  LOL!

    Yup, there have been a couple of occasions where the bride opens a red negligee just after unwrapping an ironing board and before a set of kitchen bowls.  It's pretty hysterical!
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    At 20 & 21, I would guess they need whatever anyone can buy for them. 
    I'd stay away from a theme, unless like Retread said, it is about the food. Just be careful that no one interprets your food theme as the gift theme.  Maybe not publicize it, just use it in your planning. 

    Get them to register and that way they will get what they actually need/want. 

    I think couples showers are more fun--but way more work.  With your limited time- I'd stick with the ladies.  ~Donna
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  • autumnbreeze26autumnbreeze26
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    edited December 2011
    I have always thought it was silly to buy a bride kitchenware, bath sets, and household items in general. Those gifts are NOT for the bride, they're for the bride AND groom. Even if she's the one primarily using the household items, it's for their house and not the bride. I'm not sure exactly when bridal showers got away from getting the bride sexy things for her, but I think they should go back to being that way. IMHO

    I say get some food, drinks, a few decorations and some cheesy yet fun games together and just have a shower. I hope it all turns out great! Laughing
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  • AbbeyS2011AbbeyS2011 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I am sure you have heard about the chili-pepper lamp story?  Ask the bride where they are registered at!  Never hurts either to ask what they would like.

    I love the idea of the theme being around food.  Since they are 20 and 21, perhaps they would appreciate a Jack n Jill party.  Get with your girlfriend and find out what or if any of the family members are planning any kind of wedding showers and what kind.  This way, you dont throw a lingere shower for the bride two days after her BFF had one for her. 

    Have fun with it.
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  • debi1941debi1941 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Well, as of today.....plans have not even been started on the shower......My girlfriend , the mom, keeps telling me we have plenty of time...I said, no, we don't....I cannot do it the week before I am getting married...which is 3 weeks prior to her daughters wedding.....so......i have ideas, and if I am the one throwing the shower, my basic free for all shower ideas will have to do...

    just wanted to update the info

    Thanks everyone for the great inputs!!!
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