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Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor? And some other questions

CamilleJonCamilleJon
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Since we are slow lately, I will post some questions that I have been wondering about.

I have 5 BMs: my sis is my Maid of Honor, and I guess the other 4 are "technically" just BMs. My very, very good friend (who I had to choose between her and my sister for MOH) is the only married BM... should I call her my Matron of Honor, to give her a little bit more "status", or would that be rude to my other 3 BMs (my college roomate, FSIL, and my 15 year old first cousin).

Also, my sister is on a work visa in Australia and will be flying direct to LV the week of the wedding. She is planning an awesome bachelorette party for the Thursday night prior :), but my FMIL asked me who would host the bridal shower. I told her I didn't want one, and that my sis was throwing me a bachelorette party only :) Was that rude to say?

BTW, I just had a baby shower last September. I don't like showers. I wish we could just do a lucheon or something... I don't want presents. We are not going to register because we have lived together for 4 years and have everything we need.
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  • megkbushmegkbush
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't say it's rude to the BM to make her a Matron of Honor. I would be more concerned about how your sister feels about it. I think it's perfectly acceptable to have 2 MOH's though.

    If you don't want a shower, don't have one! You may reconsider a registry just because it helps out guests who aren't quite sure what to get you. Think of it as a favor to them. I didn't think we needed anything either, until I went to set one up. Maybe there are some thing you need to upgrade or replace?
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  • ahhhitsshannynahhhitsshannyn member
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    edited December 2011
    You can have a MOH, a matron of honor and 3 bms with no problems.

    I also did not want a shower, I had no BP but a few friends asked and I declined. I do not think you were rude.

    I also suggest creating a very small registry. There are always going to be people that want to give gifts (me) and it really helps if you are registered so at least they know they are getting you something you want. You can just have new towels, sheets, silverware, plates, cups, glasses, there are always things that you can upgrade or use more of. A small registry is never asking for gifts, but rather helping out the people who really want to give something.
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  • CamilleJonCamilleJon
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_maid-of-honor-matron-of-honor-other-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:03b13afe-06e3-41a0-b658-27f74dbd67aePost:28b13178-4ec7-458c-aa70-f445974048b6">Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor? And some other questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't say it's rude to the BM to make her a Matron of Honor. I would be more concerned about how your sister feels about it. I think it's perfectly acceptable to have 2 MOH's though. If you don't want a shower, don't have one! You may reconsider a registry just because it helps out guests who aren't quite sure what to get you. Think of it as a favor to them. I didn't think we needed anything either, until I went to set one up. Maybe there are some thing you need to upgrade or replace?
    Posted by megkbush[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for the advice, Meg.
    My sis is the most laid back person in the entire world, she would never care. Plus, she and T (my married BM) like one another a lot.

    We are putting on the registry part of our website: "your presence is your gift to us." because I really feel like if people take the time off work and spend the money to travel then they shouldn't have to get us a gift, too! But I will discuss it again with FI.
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  • CamilleJonCamilleJon
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_maid-of-honor-matron-of-honor-other-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:03b13afe-06e3-41a0-b658-27f74dbd67aePost:ea983a2f-3c1f-42f8-bc9e-ff15badccd89">Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor? And some other questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]You can have a MOH, a matron of honor and 3 bms with no problems. I also did not want a shower, I had no BP but a few friends asked and I declined. I do not think you were rude. I also suggest creating a very small registry. <strong>There are always going to be people that want to give gifts (me)</strong> and it really helps if you are registered so at least they know they are getting you something you want. You can just have new towels, sheets, silverware, plates, cups, glasses, there are always things that you can upgrade or use more of. A small registry is never asking for gifts, but rather helping out the people who really want to give something.
    Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

    Me, too. But I always give wine, and wine accesorries, if there is no registry :)

    We could def do an upgrade on sheets/bedding and silverware!
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, if you go with a small registry, no one will know unless they ask. If they ask, they want to give you a gift. Just as long as it is not in the invite or anything, you are all good.
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  • CamilleJonCamilleJon
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_maid-of-honor-matron-of-honor-other-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:03b13afe-06e3-41a0-b658-27f74dbd67aePost:7e118989-a78d-4408-8af9-d463191ea964">Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor? And some other questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, if you go with a small registry, no one will know unless they ask. If they ask, they want to give you a gift. Just as long as it is not in the invite or anything, you are all good.
    Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

    Is a registry consisting of 5 things too small?
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  • vfridayvfriday
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor? And some other questions : Is a registry consisting of 5 things too small?
    Posted by CamilleJon[/QUOTE]

    That may be a little too small. LOL.  I'd go for at least half of the number of guests you plan to invite.  We didn't want a registry either, but family kept asking so we went ahead and did a small one.  I think there were maybe 25 items on it.  We received 3 items from the registry.  Two of which I will be exchanging for new pots and pans I am obsessed with. 

    You don't even need to go to a store.  You can do it all online.

    As for the MOH's.  I had a maid and a matron.  Usually your attendants don't mind too much about titles anyway.
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