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Married! Yay! And question re: no-show

deedeedordeedeedor
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I'm not super active on this board, but I do promise to post reviews and a few non-professional pictures when I get a free moment/figure out how the heck to do it.  Almost all of the vendors we used don't show up here very much, and I'd like to give them some love.  I think I can set up a Google page?

Anyhow, we were married at Garfield Park Conservatory, and it was perfect and beautiful.  No real mishaps, and everyone had a good time. 

One quick question- we had one no-show.  Is it worth saying something to her?  We're not close friends, but I thought we might be becoming better friends when I included her in my bachelorette party invite list.  And then I was wrong.  Quick backstory- she is chronically late and has stood me up for planned events in the past- a 10 mile race we agreed to run together, showing up hours late for parties, etc.  I reminded her of our wedding date three weeks in advance and she said she'd be there.  I know the world didn't revolve around my wedding, but it feels kind of crappy.  Like, thanks for blowing off my wedding. 

I'll be back in a few weeks with reviews.  Happy Thanksgiving in advance to everyone!
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Re: Married! Yay! And question re: no-show

  • drbweddingdrbwedding member
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would just let it go.  It sounds like she isn't as interested in a friendship as you are anyhow. 
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  • Sparkette19Sparkette19 member
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Wow, that's really poopy. It sounds like you have experience with her doing things like that to you. Seriously, I can't believe she stood you up for a 10m race.

    I wouldn't waste any more time, effort or thought on this person. She's obviously extremely selfish and self absorbed. Besides if you are ever in a social situation and this person is there, it will just create tension. She knows what she did.


    Congrats on on the new hubs!!

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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    I would just let it go.  It sounds like she is a repeat offender and calling her out will only cause her to become defensive and potentially make things more awkward than they already are.
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  • mirandarocksmirandarocks
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    let it go AND let her go. she sounds like a stinko friend
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  • lmb5109lmb5109 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Congrats!

    Yeah, it sucks but I'd let it go also. We had 6 no-shows and one was the hubs cousin! He still hasn't mentioned anything to us about it, but it causes a little stress when we see him.
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  • schaiblejenschaiblejen member
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    edited December 2011
    we had 12 no shows!!!!  about 7 people emailed or called us a day or two before for various and rational reasons...  swine flu, cousin who works for the goverment and would lose his job if he took the day off, etc... but we did have 5 people who just didnt show up OR call!  So rude!  many of them were from rural areas, and maybe didnt think it was a big deal not to come (at 80.00 a plate!).  We havent said anything to anyone else, but it is super annoying! 
    She sounds like a lousy friend... let her go, and I wouldnt worry about one person not coming!  :)
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  • WoodsSeltzer09WoodsSeltzer09
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'd just let it go. It doesn't sound like you two were that close so I'm sure you didn't really miss her.
    BTW -- congrats
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  • WoodsSeltzer09WoodsSeltzer09
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    edited December 2011
    I'd just let it go - it doesn't seem like  you two were that close so I doubt you even missed her.
    BTW Congrats
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  • morgie44morgie44 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would let it go and let her go... she made it clear how important you are to her with her rudeness! 

    We had a whole table RSVP and not come!  It was my DH's uncle and aunt and their adult children and wives, then another adult cousin and her boyfriend, who is actually very good friends with DH's sister.  Didn't receive a call or card from any of them (11 in total)  It is totally crappy but some people are just all about themselves and you can't really change that...
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  • deedeedordeedeedor
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you all.  I know- we lucked out with just 1 no-show.  I pretty much knew to drop it; I just wanted to hear other people's opinions, which have been very very helpful over these past few months.  At least we all know we'd never be that person!  :)
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  • ladygaudetladygaudet
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    sounds like you had a great wedding. you can simply paste in your reviews in your bio page which ends up showing up on the nest, but you can also click on your profile and planning bio link and paste in your vendor reviews there. that way all future knotties can see them anytime.
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