WWYD?

ufsweetiebear · May 2010

FI's sister is having a baby shower next Sunday in Detroit - a 3 hour drive from me. Since it's on a Sunday, I'd have to drive there and back in the same day by myself (FI has to work).

stargazerlily82479 · May 2010

As long as you get along with her, I would probably go if you have the option of staying there the night before - that's a LOT of driving all in one day. But if you can't stay overnight, I wouldn't - just send a sweet card with a nice gift.

lprouten · May 2010

I wish my soon to be sister in law lived closer. Its going to be your family soon and a very big day for her. It's a long day, but it will be appreciated ( assuming you two get along.)

homecookin81 · May 2010

I would send a car and a nice gift if you can't stay the night. 6 hours in the car is a long time. Maybe call her personally and send well wishes,

Kristin789 · May 2010

I'd drive there on Friday night after work, spend Saturday with family, go early to the shower, enjoy the shower, leave for home after the shower.

NicoleEOle13 · May 2010

No way.

It's very sweet, but a nice gift and card is all she needs.

ufsweetiebear · May 2010

We get along fine. I've been slightly apprehensive about going because his family put up a HUGE stink about our wedding and demanded that people be invited. I really don't want to deal with explaining why no one else will get an invitation. But that really has nothing to do with her - it's my personal fear. I didn't consider staying the night. I'll check into it because I'm sure I can stay with some of his family. Thanks for the suggestions!

Melis1273 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_wwyd-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:62Discussion:5918c8ff-bfbc-4886-a2b3-a3e69d334703Post:3abdcf43-cef6-49ac-98b3-2da6721a0c7d">Re: WWYD?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd drive there on Friday night after work, spend Saturday with family, go early to the shower, enjoy the shower, leave for home after the shower.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

Think this is a great idea! Even though you can't stay for the whole thing, you made an effort to spend time with her and support her.

NicoleEOle13 · May 2010

I'm shocked even a few of you would be comfortable staying with his family the night before just to go to a baby shower. It's a baby shower!

Blah, I've been with my husband 4 years and I cant ever imagine staying at one of his family members houses by myself just to go to his sister's baby shower.

LOL, I feel like such a bitch when I read this thread! Then again my Hubby's family is really really mean, so it's hard for me to imagine I guess.

ufsweetiebear · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_wwyd-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:62Discussion:5918c8ff-bfbc-4886-a2b3-a3e69d334703Post:9adb8099-22d1-44ac-91c5-e043d620e138">Re: WWYD?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm shocked even a few of you would be comfortable staying with his family the night before just to go to a baby shower. It's a baby shower!
Posted by NicoleEOle13[/QUOTE]

Well, yeah, you do have a point. And that was my initial reaction as well. But I guess my thought is that it's a nice gesture. I get along with his family but I don't really fit in so I thought it might be a way to bridge the gap. I doubt any of them would ever do the same for me (in fact, I'd bet money most of them don't attend my bridal shower) but doesn't that make me the bigger person?

babybchbum · May 2010

I would consider staying the night so that you can attend. You would be surprised what an action so small can do for someone. GL and let us know what you end up doing.

Bre2Be · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_wwyd-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:62Discussion:5918c8ff-bfbc-4886-a2b3-a3e69d334703Post:7bfd24ef-efd2-4f50-a902-f851de853ea1">Re: WWYD?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WWYD? : I doubt any of them would ever do the same for me (in fact, I'd bet money most of them don't attend my bridal shower) but doesn't that make me the bigger person?
Posted by ufsweetiebear[/QUOTE]

Yes, I think it does make you the bigger person. We all know the old saying, "Treat others as you want them to treat you." And it really is true. Although they may not reciprocate, it shows that you are willing to make the effort to start the marriage off on the right foot. It's really unfortunate that not everyone is as close to their FI or H's families because they are, after all, your family now too. But, if they are willing and you are comfortable then I say go for it! You are blessed to be marrying into such a welcoming family! GL!

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