Great article on when and when not to tip

GJones27 · April 2011

So, I've been planning my wedding for a whole year now, and I've read like 10 bridal magazines, the Knot, and Mindy Weiss' famous wedding book. This whole time, I thought tips were mandatory for all vendors. Through my mom's research today, we find out that it's not always necessary. Here's a useful guide on when and when not to tip.

http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/article/tipping-wedding-vendors

AshNoel8 · April 2011

Thanks! I have been wondering about this!

amongthelilies25 · April 2011

ya...we didnt know either. we had to ask our wedding planner. lol

kellya01 · April 2011

Great article! Yeah, I wasn't sure about the whole tip thing either, and TK magazine didn't help me. My mom thankfully knows a bit more about social etiquette and is helping me learn more every day!!

mrandmrsbrist · April 2011

Oooh! Good stuff. Bookmarked.

joyfulbride424 · April 2011

Helpful article, but I find the whole tipping thing slightly absurd. Your billed for a service, you pay for a service, and that should be the end of it. Prices are already jacked up ridiculously high just because the word "wedding" is attached it it. We'll be giving tips reluctantly. /steps off soapbox

kitkat610 · April 2011

thanks for passing this along! I have been tying to finish the last budgetting, and this definitely helps

kellya01 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_great-article-not-tip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:f310e79a-abc8-4a78-88f9-b891ffcc7306Post:99f09e3f-5b3e-4e13-b0bb-148404bde05d">Re: Great article on when and when not to tip</a>:
[QUOTE]Helpful article, but I find the whole tipping thing slightly absurd. Your billed for a service, you pay for a service, and that should be the end of it. Prices are already jacked up ridiculously high just because the word "wedding" is attached it it. We'll be giving tips reluctantly. /steps off soapbox
Posted by joyfulbride424[/QUOTE]

... and again, I think I love you.

I also felt that way -- I know it sounds crazy, but I wish restuarants would go ahead and put a 15% tip on the price of everything on the menu for everyday stuff too. It would make more sense to me!! :-)

aegrish · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_great-article-not-tip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:f310e79a-abc8-4a78-88f9-b891ffcc7306Post:99f09e3f-5b3e-4e13-b0bb-148404bde05d">Re: Great article on when and when not to tip</a>:
[QUOTE]Helpful article, but I find the whole tipping thing slightly absurd. Your billed for a service, you pay for a service, and that should be the end of it. Prices are already jacked up ridiculously high just because the word "wedding" is attached it it. We'll be giving tips reluctantly. /steps off soapbox
Posted by joyfulbride424[/QUOTE]

I agree!!! And we cannot possibly tip EVERY vendor! That would significantly add to our budget. Plus we aren't going to plan to tip vendors until we see how their service turns out. If they're fabulous sure we'll tip as much as we can. If they're average or less than that....eh. sorry. We're not going to tip them for just showing up.

louieblue · April 2011

Some of those tipping guidelines are way overboard. Out of the list, we only tipped my hairstylist/makeup artist, seamstress, and florist.

We didn't tip our preacher, but had discussed with him beforehand whether he wanted payment or not. Regardless of whether you are paying the officiant, it is considered thoughtful to make a small donation (we gave $100) to our church.

We didn't tip our photographer, DJ or reception site coordinator because we had already set up contracts with them.

I'd tip wait staff if the caterer is separate from the site. Especially if there will be a bar, I would tip the bartender.

Obviously there are no hard and fast rules about who you should tip. It might also be regional. If you have a wedding planner, I'd ask him/her who should be tipped or ask others who have gone through weddings before.

GJones27 · April 2011

I agree that tipping is kind of ridiculous. But the article makes a good point... you only tip individuals a little bit if they don't own the business. If the person you pay owns the business, you don't tip because all the money goes to their pocket. I can imagine someone further down on the latter getting very little of the money as a result, and it's nice to give them a small tip. That doesn't strike me as being overboard.

Great article on when and when not to tip

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