this is the code for the render ad
Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Pre-wedding Parties
Pre-wedding Parties
New Discussion

Inviting out of town guests to the shower?

angeltennis3angeltennis3 member
10 Comments
in Pre-wedding Parties

My FI's family lives approximately 6 hours away.  My FMIL asked the etiquette on inviting out of town guests to the wedding shower.  Since we only visit his family a few times a year, I have only met out of town family/friends once or twice.  I feel bad sending them an invitation and basically asking for a gift since I don't know them that well.  However, they all obviously know and love FI and I'm sure want to help him start his married life. 

What is the etiquette on inviting out of town guests to a shower?

Tara & Eric September 2011 Wedding Countdown Ticker
Report Reply to Post

Re: Inviting out of town guests to the shower?

  • specialk84specialk84
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Maybe FI could ask his mom what her family thinks.  She might not know a shower is being planned and might want to throw one for you so her family wouldn't have to travel.

    Generally, most people say to go ahead and invite them.  An invitaiton is not a summons.  They can decline it if they want.  Just make sure anyone invited to the shower is also invited to the wedding.
    Report Reply
  • rainedrop6rainedrop6
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
       I'm posting from the perspective of the family member that lives far away, please invite me!!!
       We live far away from both of our families. My family always invites us to everything and we decide whether or not we can go and then RSVP. My husband's family assumes it would be a hassle or too expensive for us to come to things so they never invite us to anything. Not invited to: either SIL's bridal or baby showers, non of our 3 niece and nephews christenings, no 1st birthday parties, or any other special event. I was surprised we were invited to both brother's weddings but neither of us were asked to be in the wedding party because they "didn't want it to be too much for us". How about inviting us and letting us decide? It actually really bothers me and hurts my feelings they never include us. Oh and I forgot, they were going to have a bridal shower for me, without me. I had to convince MIL it was not a problem for me to attend. 

    P.S. No hidden reasons for not inviting us, we all get along great.
       
    image
    Report Reply
  • misscarolbmisscarolb
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Invite them! Just as PP said - people like to be invited. 

    A close friend of mine had two showers, one in Cali (where she lived) and one in Boston (where the wedding was) and I was invited to both just in case I could make it (I live in the south). 

    I know her very well so I know it wasn't just gift solicitation, and we only got them a wedding gift since it costs us almost 3 grand to go to the wedding so I don't feel bad. 

    People will be more upset if you don't invite them,
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards