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Bridesmaids and Bridal Showers

saravandsaravand
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I have about 6 weeks before my wedding and two of my bridesmaids that live close had decided a long time ago that they would host my bridal shower. Now that the shower is 3 weeks away, one is complaining about how much work they have to do and are not doing to help plan the shower. She had mentioned to me earlier that I am expecting a lot so I now feel uncomfortable asking for any favors. My mom is making the majority of the food and the MOG is making the dessert. Besides that, nothing is done and they do not really want to do much. Any suggestions??
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Re: Bridesmaids and Bridal Showers

  • saravandsaravand
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    edited December 2011
    My maid of honor decided to have the shower originally and asked me where I would like to have it. It was supposed to be at her house but she moved so now it is at my other bridesmaid's house. She never complained about actually having the shower at her house, she just doesn't think she should help with anything for the shower besides having it there. I tried to tell her we didn't have to have one or it could have been at my fiance's mom's house but she refused and demanded that it be at her house. Sorry for the confusion. Does that make it more clear?
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    edited December 2011
    Yikes. : (
    Thats a bummer. I would ask if everything is ok with her. Maybe she is dealing with something?
    If she doesnt want to do anything, and it sounds like the Moms do, I would let one of them be the hostess, seems like they are more invested in it.


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  • JluseJluse
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry it sounds like you are in the middle of this. Is there someone that can maybe speak to her? When my friend got married I was a bridesmaid and the MOH was somewhat slacking with the planning. I figured it out soon enought when the bride was starting to plan the details. So all of us bridesmaids pitched in and got the bride out of planning details.

    This is so not your role. I would see if your mother or MOF could possibly talk to her and see if she needs help or is overwelmed. Sometimes It can get overwelming with all of the details and for most people who don't throw parties It can be stressful! 

    If you don't mind giving a helping hand I am sure she would appreciate it however its supposed to be your day and she needs to buck up and realize that this is soemthing special she is doing for you. And ask for help if she needs it.
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  • saravandsaravand
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you both. That helps quite a bit. I think the moms are going to be the ones to do most of the prepping but I am going to step back and whatever happens happens. I can't take on another responsibility at this point!
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    edited December 2011
    Just let the Moms run the show. Moms always know best! You just need to sit back and relax and deal with the other 100 things on your list.
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