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stressed out bridesmaid

My best friend of 16 years  got engaged last winter and set a wedding date for next year and asked me to a bridesmaid. Monday she sent me a text message saying that she had changed the date to Oct. 20th of this year. I am thankfully able to make it to the wedding and not have to worry about expenses. The stressful part is the dress she wants me to wear she sent me a link to a website www.celeb16.com. I went to check it out tonight and i have no idea what would make her want to order from this company. I read an article on theknon about dress sites like this beaing a scam and for clues to look for when shopping. well this site hit about all of them. The site does not give an physica address for the shop the phone # is listed out of seattle washington and while it says there are reivews from happy customers there is nothing posted. I read the review on theri facebook and 95% of them are negative, the dress not being the one pictured , the orders not going through, or it taking 4+ weeks for the dress to arrive. I am a  pluss size girl so i know i will have to have the dress altered no matter what. I guess my mainn questions is would it be bad for me to tell her im ot comfortable ordering from this site. I know she is thinking of her grils and trying to save us money but i would rather have to spend alittle more at a place like davids bridal where i can go in and actualy see it then get a dress that doesnt fit and not have time to alter it or not get a dress at all .

Re: stressed out bridesmaid

  • I think it would be an excellent idea to tell her that you're not comfortable ordering from that site, and to explain your (very good) reasons.  I can't really imagine a sitiuation in which I would ever willingly thrown money away on a dress that I have no guarantee of even getting, much less being in any sort of decent shape when it arrived.

    Just because she's the bride doesn't mean you can't make countersuggestions to her ideas.
  • Yes, please tell the bride. My daughter found a Jim Helm bm dress for a price that was too good to be true. I checked it out, and sure enough, it turned out to be one of those Chinese knock-off sites. She and her bms were very happy to find out before they sent their hard earned money to this company. I think your friend would want to know.
                       
  • ok well i sent her a message  and the respons i got back was" i dont really care i am just concerned with you guys having to pay alot. There are mixed reviews for the site.


    so i guess heres to hoping that i actualy have a dress for the wedding and am not out $60
  • Tell the bride your concerns and then send her to the Attire forum on here.  There are tons of posts and a sticky about these sites.  Seriously there is one from yesterday about a bride who now can't get any refund from them and they have up and disappeared.  I didn't know better and tried with our BM dresses and they were horrible! Luckily we went through this back is June (for my Oct 20th wedding, hehe), and we ended up going through DB for the dresses after a month of trying to get refunds.  Tell her it's not the way to go.  You can definitely find reasonable dresses elsewhere.  Also, check out dept stores.  They have cute, reasonable dresses that wouldn't take weeks to get in.  Do your friend a favor because that will add stress when it goes sideways!  Good luck!

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  • im in the process of trying to get her to see thats its a bad idea but its turning into im trying to ruin her wedding and that im just not happy with anything. so time will tell i guess .
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_stressed-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7fbac90f-c40f-4644-acdb-31445ddf4d50Post:e21ef5a3-447d-43cf-8fee-2b3a1a95dd7e">Re: stressed out bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]im in the process of trying to get her to see thats its a bad idea but its turning into im trying to ruin her wedding and that im just not happy with anything. so time will tell i guess .
    Posted by CSK4[/QUOTE]

    Well, just be prepared for an even more bossy bride when they don't turn out.  When it happened to me, I ate the cost of the first bad dresses, so I hope your friend will do the same if she can't make the dresses work. 

    FWIW, it's hard to heard.  I spent about 30 mins trying to convince another friend of mine not to get her wedding dress from one of those sites too.  She didn't want to listen at first either.

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  • well i just found a dress on davids bridal in the outlet section  that is only $29 and is the colors she wants you have to oder it online but even if i were to buy the dress and pay fr over night shipping it is cheaper then the dress she has picked out on the other site and look almost the same so im hoping she sees reason and that she sees i am just looking out for her and our freinds .
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_stressed-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7fbac90f-c40f-4644-acdb-31445ddf4d50Post:d53bac5a-c6a4-4127-9ae9-e9079ea96b12">Re: stressed out bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]well i just found a dress on davids bridal in the outlet section  that is only $29 and is the colors she wants you have to oder it online but even if i were to buy the dress and pay fr over night shipping it is cheaper then the dress she has picked out on the other site and look almost the same so im hoping she sees reason and that she sees i am just looking out for her and our freinds .
    Posted by CSK4[/QUOTE]

    Fantastic!  Encourage her to go that route.  As much flak as DB gets sometimes, they are at least reputable and have a customer service line, much more than any of those sites can say.  I'm so glad we ended up going that route with my girls' dresses.  And again, if she is insistent on going with the China website, send her over here!
    I think she is lucky to have such a good bridesmaid!  Good luck!

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    [QUOTE]My best friend of 16 years  got engaged last winter and set a wedding date for next year and asked me to a bridesmaid. Monday she sent me a text message saying that she had changed the date to Oct. 20th of this year. I am thankfully able to make it to the wedding and not have to worry about expenses. The stressful part is the dress she wants me to wear she sent me a link to a website <a href="http://www.celeb16.com." rel="nofollow">www.celeb16.com.</a> I went to check it out tonight and i have no idea what would make her want to order from this company. I read an article on theknon about dress sites like this beaing a scam and for clues to look for when shopping. well this site hit about all of them. The site does not give an physica address for the shop the phone # is listed out of seattle washington and while it says there are reivews from happy customers there is nothing posted. I read the review on theri facebook and 95% of them are negative, the dress not being the one pictured , the orders not going through, or it taking 4+ weeks for the dress to arrive. I am a  pluss size girl so i know i will have to have the dress altered no matter what. I guess my mainn questions is would it be bad for me to tell her im ot comfortable ordering from this site. I know she is thinking of her grils and trying to save us money but i would rather have to spend alittle more at a place like davids bridal where i can go in and actualy see it then get a dress that doesnt fit and not have time to alter it or not get a dress at all .
    Posted by CSK4[/QUOTE]

    I'd be tempted to tell her..."fine, but if they are awful or don't come in, I can't afford to buy a second dress.  I hope you are prepared to cover the cost to replace them in a hurry."
    My baby girl is a married woman...and now my baby girl HAS a baby girl. Time unfolds in such an amazing way. I've been blessed!
  • well ladies she has seen reason she loves the dress i found for us as do the other 2 girls. Thanks so much for the advice and support.
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