Hi everyone! This is my first post, but it seems like a great place to get help and ideas! Congratulations to everyone getting married. I got engaged last week and I couldn't be happier. I am in the early early stages of planning a wedding, and I would sincerely appreciate any advice! Here is my situation...............I have never wanted a large wedding. It is much more my style and desire to have an intimate, elegant, sweet ceremony with a small guest list. Right now, I am planning on having only family (50-60 ppl) at an outdoor wedding (either home of a family friend or at a plantation home that does weddings). I am concerned that people will see this as rude if I don't want them at my wedding. It has nothing to do with that, only that my fiance and I aren't from the same place, and know totally different sets of people. Our guest list would be between 300 - 400 people if we went with a big wedding. Also, several people have mentioned showers to me, and I know that I can't do showers if the guests aren't invited to the wedding. Has anyone faced similar decisions? I would love to hear any advice!! Thanks a lot!