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Young Bride

andriana13andriana13 member
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Hey yall,

Just wondering if there are any other young Christian brides out there. My FI and I have been together for about 2 years now and we knew we wanted to get married pretty early on in our relationship. I thank God for him everyday. I couldn't be more grateful. We've decided to get married while still in school because (1) We are staying pure until marriage (2) We want to do missionary work right out of school (3) We will be financially stable (FI is a fireman) (4) We can't wait to start our lives together.

We haven't announced our engagement yet though...I've been hesitant because most of my extended family members are atheists. They just won't understand the reasons we have for getting married so early. I'm not sure how to go about telling everyone. While I'm super excited about being engaged to the love of my life there will be no way to escape the awkward response I'll get from my extended family members (My immediate family knows already).
Does anyone have any advice for this young Christian bride?
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    dang.
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  • FaithCaitlinFaithCaitlin member
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    It's been blank since this morning.. Looks like it was deleted before anyone got to it or TK is acting up. 

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  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    Not sure why she left..?

    "Hey yall,
    Just wondering if there are any other young Christian brides out there. My FI and I have been together for about 2 years now and we knew we wanted to get married pretty early on in our relationship. I thank God for him everyday. I couldn't be more grateful. We've decided to get married while still in school because (1) We are staying pure until marriage (2) We want to do missionary work right out of school (3) We will be financially stable (FI is a fireman) (4) We can't wait to start our lives together.

    We haven't announced our engagement yet though...I've been hesitant because most of my extended family members are atheists. They just won't understand the reasons we have for getting married so early. I'm not sure how to go about telling everyone. While I'm super excited about being engaged to the love of my life there will be no way to escape the awkward response I'll get from my extended family members (My immediate family knows already).
    Does anyone have any advice for this young Christian bride?"
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  • FaithCaitlinFaithCaitlin member
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    Too bad she left!! :(

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  • drama1308drama1308
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    Hmm wonder why she deleted then? We would have given her good advice
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  • drama1308drama1308
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    First I don't think you need to worry about what others think. It sounds like you and your FI have already planned things out and are mature enough to handle it.
    Second, you say you are still in school, am assuming that you mean college. There is nothing wrong with getting married while still in college, sometimes it can even mean that you get more financial aide.

    I am like you, I got married what can be considered young (21) and I am still in college. I have one semester left after this one. If you want to know anything about what it's like having school and being married (And having a job) feel free to ask.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_young-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:0919241d-a559-400b-af70-566a84d61d56Post:b8e7356c-a606-4b6f-b039-7aefe5450e3a">Re: Young Bride</a>:
    [QUOTE]First I don't think you need to worry about what others think. It sounds like you and your FI have already planned things out and are mature enough to handle it. Second, you say you are still in school, am assuming that you mean college. There is nothing wrong with getting married while still in college, sometimes it can even mean that you get more financial aide. I am like you, I got married what can be considered young (21) and I am still in college. I have one semester left after this one. If you want to know anything about what it's like having school and being married (And having a job) feel free to ask.
    Posted by drama1308[/QUOTE]

    Sorry, I wasn't very clear on the whole school thing. I meant college but I should have been more precise. haha by the time our wedding comes around we will both be 21. Thanks for your advice. I'll definitely come to you if I have any questions!:)
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  • RyansBelovedBrideRyansBelovedBride member
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    :) We're glad you came back. I guess TK was acting up.  I understand about not thinking your family will understand some choices you're making because of your faith. My parents are Christians, but I have an atheist sister and she doesn't really understand me at all. It can be really hard. And my parents don't understand usually either. Their path with Him is still close to American standard. They are open to, but nervous about me going to the other side of the world.
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  • ochemjennochemjenn member
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    My worry about marrying young is that you (general you, not you specifically) won't finish college.  I've know two girls who left college early to get married, but I know another who is still in school and will graduate soon.  You sound like the latter. :)

    I'm glad that you have your parents' support.  They might be able to help with other family members.

    Do you know where you'd like to do missionary work?
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  • andriana13andriana13 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_young-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:0919241d-a559-400b-af70-566a84d61d56Post:c7fb632f-f2fa-4744-9715-6f3bcb59edaa">Re: Young Bride</a>:
    [QUOTE] Do you know where you'd like to do missionary work?
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    I have a few ideas. Macedonia is on my list, but it's wherever the Lord takes me. I'm not sure of anything yet:)
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  • mkmistrettamkmistretta
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    Hey!  I am 19 and my fiance is 20.  We will be 21 and 22 when we get married and will have been done with school for about a week!  We thought about getting married while in school, but money just isn't there for us with my tuition. Anyways congrats!  It sounds like you guys have stuff figured out.  If you know this is right for you then try your best not to worry about other people.  The support of your parents can be really important though.  You can always tell people exactly what you told us.  If they don't understand then it has to do with them and just say that this is what is right for you guys.
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  • andriana13andriana13 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_young-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:0919241d-a559-400b-af70-566a84d61d56Post:7b538ce3-4bc3-43d5-8b68-02ae3122b7aa">Re: Young Bride</a>:
    [QUOTE]You can always tell people exactly what you told us.  If they don't understand then it has to do with them and just say that this is what is right for you guys.
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    I think that's what I'll end up doing. I'll pray that they understand but if they don't I just have to realize that it's not up to them.
    I think they would just rather me wait until I'm 37 and sleep with a bunch of people before I settle down. That's just not me. haha I feel like this is definitely God's plan for me.
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  • Bett2012Bett2012 member
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    Hi, I am in somewhat of a similar situation as you (minus the athiest family, but i have close friends who don't share my values). We are 21 and 22 years old and we will have been together for 5 years by the time our wedding comes around in exactly 3 months! Even 5 years was stretching it out for us, so we decided to just get married instead of waiting for a better time in our school sequence (we have 12 months of university left after the wedding, and we're getting married 2 weeks into the school term, so right after the wedding we're back in class on monday!)

    We've had SO many people tell us we're stupid for a) getting married in school and b) not waiting another 4 months until the end of the term (which, for a few reasons was not desirable.. weighing pros and cons, getting married in the middle of the term was better!).  Just don't let them bug you, know that you're doing the right thing in getting married now instead of prolonging the temptation! and just think of how blessed you and FI will be when you can start your marriage off in trusting God with your time, financial situation, future, and purity :)

    Best wishes!
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