last name

alyssalowe · June 2010

So this isnt retro/vintage.. just siting here at work bored and thinking. Is anyone else going to miss their last name? Ive been a "lowe" for 23 years and now im going to be a "herendeen." Ive thought about keeping my last name but that would be honoring my real father which long story i dont want to do, ive also thought about when i change it having my step-dads last name hypened in.. but i dont know how my fathers family (whom im still close to) would feel and i dont want hurt feelings. Id put all three but... lol..dont have to have a million letter last name.

What are you ladies doing when you get married? I want to celebrate becomming a family and I dont want to feel as though loosing my last name is losng a connection to the family... Idk, Im in a wow I just realized I will be married in 6 months mood. We have been engaged for so long it never felt like I would get to this point.

Ingamckinley · June 2010

I know I'm going to end up changing my last name, but I feel really sad about it. I love my last name. But you make a good point about celebrating becoming a family. I would like to hyphenate, but I already have such a long name as it is so I'm not sure. But I feel you on this one. I'm curious to see what everyone else has to say.

portia.young · June 2010

With God's blessing, you will have your husband's name longer than you had yours. I'm letting mine go, because his name is a symbol of our union, easier for children, and easier for legal stuff. I still know I'm 'Portia" and that's never going to change.

kelleyku05 · June 2010

I think it's all up to personal choice. I don't like my last name, no one ever understands what I say and I always have to spell it. So I'm excited to change mine. However, if I met someone with the last name Kelly or something like that, I might have thought twice. Kelley Kelly.....no thanks. You can represent your union by wearing your ring or hyphenating or however you choose.

hippie4yahweh · June 2010

I'm using both last names- no hyphen. Stephanie H_____ R____. This way, my CCs, paychecks, etc etc etc can be in either name, because both will be on my SS card/ DL.

My step-mom did this, too, and it's worked wonderfully for her!

I'm really attached to my last name. My little sister and I are the very last of our family- no cousins, aunts, uncles, anything. The closest family members on my dad's side are 4th cousins on my grandmother's side. Our name officially dies with us (well, not literally, there are lots of others in the country but our FAMILY name I guess is what I mean.)

Sad day for the H_____es.

Lisa50 · June 2010

Take a look at a similar discussion on the "Second Weddings" board ... good stuff there!

DivineWillowMama · June 2010

I'm kinda sad to have to change my last name, but I feel that I'll be honoring my husband. My mother's father died in WWII and my current last name was his last name so I am proud of it, but I will take it slowly and eventually I'll adjust to being a Mrs. Tipton.

Nukke · June 2010

I'm giving up my last name for one reason. When we have a family some day, I'd like us to be known as the "XXXX" family, and not the "XXXXX family plus mom". Know what I mean? I'd like us all to have the same last name. FI and I thought of hyphenating our names, but they sound terrible together. I offered for him to take my last name, but he hated the idea more than I hate the idea of taking his so... his it is.

I'm definitely going to miss my last name, but Portia said it best. I'll hopefully have his last name much longer than I did mine.

Plus, legally--on my birth certificate, I'll still have my last name. I'm only "assuming" his last name according to Canadian law.

princess74 · June 2010

Brian's abusive, alcoholic stepdad who hasn't been in his life for 20 years changed his and his brother's last names when they were little, so Brian is actually changing his in the next few months to his mother's maiden name, which is Spencer. And I don't like it! Mrs. Spencer? Ehh.. But I can't imagine NOT taking his last name, so hopefully it will grow on me and not make me feel so.. old..

Nukke · June 2010

I think Spencer sounds distinguished.

llamallamaduck · June 2010

I'm having this issue. I'm Hazel. My surname starts with H. So does FH's. None of the possible options sound good! I've always disliked my surname (more so recently as my relationship with my father has deteriorated). It all get's very complicated because we have a son who has my last name. I think I'm going to suggest we all give up and think of a new name we all like which doesn't sound ridiculous...

GracefulMeadow86 · June 2010

im going to miss my surname but i look forward to taking FIs. except that its a crazy polish lastname that nobody can pronounce so ill probably be mrs z.

ledalia · June 2010

I personally hate my maiden name and can't wait to be Mrs. Baron. We don't plan on having kids, but kids or not, you are still your own family. I love my dad and even though I don't have any brothers or sisters to continue on with our name, I'm not attached in the last bit.

vintagefix · June 2010

Laura, I like Spencer too! It is classy

I will be changing mine but I will definitely miss my last name! It is all I've ever known

I'm not close with my dad's family so there is no tie to them. It has just always been my name!

Here's my dilemma...

Ben's has a huge family and half of them are very well known in our area because of their bad reputations. People constantly go up to my FI and ask him if he is a "______" and he always has to say "yes and which of my brother's do you know". They ALWAYS know one of the bad ones! Haha! He hates it! So now I get to be associated with them as well.

Oh, and my new last name will sort of rhyme with my first name. And I have to go from an "ie" to an "ei". For a person who forgets her own phone number because it is almost the same as FI's its going to cause some problems.

It will take a lot of time to get used to!

TriSarahtops82 · June 2010

I never thought it would bother me but now that its really happening, I too will miss my last name.

My best friend changed her middle name to her maiden name (eliminating the original Michelle) ...Ive considered doing that, but my middle name has some meaning to me.... I hate hyphenating, so Im going to be a Bouvier.... a 100% Irish girl with a French last name haha

bellaxanthe · June 2010

I am changing my middle name officially to my maiden name. I always hated it but have been a "K..." for so long I cannot imagine life without it. Then I'll take his last name. It will be like my little secret.

alyssalowe · June 2010

I also thought of dropping my middle name in order to keep it but my middle name was for after my grandmother who recently passed away so I wont give that up.. Its just a major change that Im trying to prepare myself for...

ramblingpurse · June 2010

oh i'm so glad i'm not the only one conflicted about this!
I have always planned on hyphenating...my parents only have us 2 girls and no sons.
My last name is Balassone, rather long and Italian. FI's last name is Williams.
I dont want to give up my middle name, Elizabeth, b/c my mother named me after the Catholic Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton.
I def dont want to give up my last name, my father passing away in April has cemented that I absolutely want to keep it, somehow.
Would hyphenating it be ridiculous? I guess I just want all these names without giving one up

Oh and FH is so sweet, he said he doesnt mind either way as long as we are married , he is happy

HappyGoLuckyGal · June 2010

I kept my maiden name as my middle name and changed my last name to his.

Kellie Colleen H--- marries Peter A--- and becomes Kellie H--- A---

I felt it gave me the best of both worlds. I wanted to take his name but not give up my last name. I wasn't attached to Colleen.

Nukke · June 2010

[QUOTE]I hate hyphenating, so Im going to be a Bouvier.... a 100% Irish girl with a French last name haha
Posted by TriSarahtops82[/QUOTE]

I've got a 100% finnish first name that I'll be tacking a %100 irish last name onto. My new last name is usually a girl's first name. Hailey.

I like it though... just not as much as my maiden name :P

Ken&Cass · June 2010

I won't miss my last name. Actually the first time I married and took my ex's last name I never changed my name back after the divorce because I didn't want to go through the hassle. I've had to change it back recently because I don't want my ex's name on the marriage certificate, so I'm back to my maiden until the wedding. My fiance says the only reason I'll miss my last name is because it's the only way people knew I was Mexican! I thought about taking it as my middle name but I just really don't care that much. My new last name will be Blair...

tattooed**true*romance** · June 2010

Hi everyone. i'm new to the group....and to TK Nukke, I'm canadian too. We're only assuming our hubby's last names??? LOL. that makes it sound like we're criminals on the run or something!! I haven't really looked into the legality of the name change much, except I remember reading somewhere you can use whatever name you want as long as you're not doing it to deceive of defraud anyone (or something??) that doesn't seem like that could be right though, but like i said, I have't really looked into it that much. I plan on taking my FI's last name. I love my name, but my new last name isn't a whole lot different and my initials will still be RJ, (same as my FIs.) My only concern is that my son has my last name. He's never really known his bio dad, and it didn't seem appropriate to give him that name. but i don't want him to be the only J***R in the family, I want him to have the same last name as me and his potential future siblings. He's already started using his step-dad's name... he tells everyone he's a J****S now, and he writes it on the top of his spelling tests and stuff at school, and i think that's pretty darn cute. just wonder how legal that is??

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