Ok, I see you get many questions on here about these, but I wonder how to approach this one.
So my FMIL said after we got engaged she would be taking care of the rehearsal dinner. The problem is that she lives out in the boondocks of NH and it's about 1- 1 1/2 hours away from the hotel (where most of the guests will be) and ceremony location and a GPS will not work in her town. So she's dropped hints about wanting to host it at her house (not sure if she realises 41 people need to be invited). I am REALLY against this because asking guest to drive 3 hours round trip without an option for a GPS is just ridiculous. Some of the streets don't even have signs! A map would just be a nightmare.
How do I bring this up to her? She's already mentioned (about a year ago) that the rehearsal dinner is up to her and I have no say, I just brushed it off and figured it was too early to touch that one.
We are coming up to the point that we need to start thinking about it, so do I bring it up to her? I've talked to my FI and he wants it at a restaurant that has a separate room to do private functions. This is fine with me, but just doesn't always stand up to her so well, I'm afraid that she will railroad this. I'm fine with a casual BBQ because of our high number, but I just against the distance.
Any advice on how to discuss this without upsetting her? She gets upset with us for silly things and won't talk to us for weeks. It's strange.
Is our only option hosting it ourselves? This is our last resort, I would really like to take her up on her offer if we could.