So I e-mailed our officiant a couple of days ago after he emailed us (3 months late) the ceremony outline. My fi and I emailed him back just wanting to change a couple of things. For example we wanted the reading and sand ceremony separate not done together. I emailed him an example of a sand ceremony reading kind of explaining it to all the guests that came in our sand ceremony kit that he could read. Then also we asked if we could have my aunt read more towards the beginning of the ceremony not at the end.
We had just those two ideas that we were wanting to talk to him about. A bit of a back story when we met in person about the ceremony we had explained to him about having the ceremony very light on the religious end. He is a minister, he had agreed and made some changes.
This is the first part of the e-mail he sent to us replying to our request:
"Thanks for your questions. I realize that this is of great importance to you, and I will do my best to accommodate your wishes within reason. Please keep in mind that the order and contents of the service are ultimately my decision, as the presiding minister, and it is my responsibility to see that the service has integrity as a service of worship."
My fi and I were very upset, he is a friend of FI mom. The e-mail we had sent had nothing rude or anything and we get this nasty email. We have not responded, I am not sure how. My FI and I feel like it is our decision as it is our wedding. I guess we should have talked about the ceremony before hand with him so we could see that he wanted to turn our wedding ceremony into a worship! Urgh, we don't know what to do or how to respond. I feel like this probably is somewhat in response to our initial meeting about the ceremony when we stated that what he was planning on for the ceremony was just to much for us. But we adjusted it that day and it was fine, we just wanted to change the sand ceremony and reading. Advice on how to respond?