this is the code for the render ad
Community› Local Wedding Boards› New Jersey
New Jersey
New Discussion

I wrapped my own Christmas gift

kewltifkewltif member
Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
in New Jersey
Has anyone else done this?

No matter how many times I have asked to be surprised, DH just cannot do it.  He doesn't know how to take a *hint hint* and go out and buy something I want.

About a month ago I was in the mall and saw a purse I wanted and I actually called him up to ask if I could get it. I don't typically call to ask before I purchase something, but I felt a bit guilty because it wasn't cheap.  He told me, "Sure, but it is your Christmas gift and I'm not kidding." I say, "So I'll give you a picture of it and you can come back and buy it." "Why would I do that? Just buy it, but you can't open it till Christmas since you are seriously not getting anything else."

I don't know- this just bugs me a bit. I mean, I'm lucky to be in a situation where I can basically buy what I want (within reason), but I really wish sometimes he would take the initiative and try to surprise me.

This is just one of many many gifts I have purchased for myself.
Pregnancy Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Photobucket Photobucket Photobucket
Report Reply to Post

Re: I wrapped my own Christmas gift

  • kewltifkewltif member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    And I know it seems really dumb to bother wrapping it, but I guess on Christmas morning it will be nice to have something under the tree to look forward to opening, LOL
    Pregnancy Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Photobucket Photobucket Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    i've totally done this... it sucks but makes me laugh and well, it's still a gift to open on xmas!  :) 
    Report Reply
  • DMLJDMLJ member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Aw I would hate that... i just send him e-mails with hints.
    image
    Report Reply
  • 30may09bride30may09bride
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I am also in the same boat.  I told DH I wanted earrings for christmas, he brought me to our jeweler, looked at some earrings, I narrowed it down to 2, and asked him to pick which ones, I love them both, and surprise me.  He wouldn't do it, even though I really didn't have any preference of one over the other.  I picked the ones that he preferred, but I couldn't understand why he couldn't just pick those and not tell me.  Apparently picking out my e-ring was too stressful for him and he refuses to pick out any more jewelry (or really anything else for that mattter) again.  Oh well. 
    Report Reply
  • gibribuzgibribuz member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My parents used to pull stuff like that when I was younger.  They would take me to the store so I could show them things I would like for Christmas or my birthday and then while we were still at the store they would say "go wait outside... we need to buy something."  lol... it used to bug me a lot but then I realized that they just wanted to get me something they knew I would like. 
    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • cvl105cvl105
    5000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I used to wrap my own presents when I was younger. My mom would tape the boxes shut thinking that would keep me out.  Silly Mommy!
    ~Chelsea~
    image
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • stacieb311stacieb311 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    at least it is something u want! i have been with my FI for three years. the 1st year i just let him pick out whatever he wanted & i got some weird beret thing that i would never wear, last year i got a horish dress i again would never wear this year who knows? i even gave him a wish list with pics last year with where to get it and i still didnt get what i wanted LOL! so i guess i would be happy buying my own gift. and like cvl105 i used to wrap my own gifts with my mom thinking i wouldn't look! but i would only look if it was a big package i tried not to peek too much!
    Report Reply
  • ffbride_0813ffbride_0813
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We didnt even wrap our presents this year.  We got ipods and they litterally came ot the house and we gave them to each other in the brown boxes they were delivered in.  We didnt even unpack them.  My birthday present is under the tree now too.  It is wrapped in the lovely amazon box it came in.  I dont think he will wrap it.  Last year he forgot my present for my bday at work and we had to go pick it up the next day.  He made me close my eyes and then gave it to me not even in a box.  He just handed it to me a day late. 
    BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • VanessaB24VanessaB24 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Well i haven't wrapped any gifts my FI has given me ever. But i have to wrap gifts his family are supposed to give me, which i complained about the other night because why should i wrap any gift that other people are supposed to give me? my FI bought the gifts and we bought the wrapping paper and i had to wrap it! His mother doesn't do anything all day and his brother gets home about the 5 so i dunno why they cant take the bus to get me a gift and wrap it themselves! And my fi has no problem going to get the gift for them which annoys me. Yeah they pay him back but still. He should wrap it for them then not me. I wish i was a kid again...  be suprised with gifts that i didn't WRAP. o well.
    http://cwa-union.org/sites/cwaunion/index.php/verigreedy/
    Report Reply
  • dianenjnjdianenjnj member
    Knottie Warrior 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    the most important part is that he's kind and generous.

    my husband is awful with buying me gifts...just doesn't do it at all!  however, he is the most kind and generous person, just not into buying gifts.  

    it took me 20+ years to resign myself to this...i can and do buy whatever i want (also within reason...and i always check w/him, especially if it's something expensive...never got a no yet!

    point is, be happy.
    Report Reply
  • DS0305DS0305 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I've never done this with FI.  But my mom does this all the time with my dad.  If there's anything specifically that she wants, she'll buy it and tell my dad it's from him, and then wrap it up for herself.  And then she'll act totally shocked on Christmas morning when she opens it up.

    I don't think I would do this with FI though.  I would tell him if there's anything specifically that I want, but I don't think I'd ever buy something and say it was from him.
    Report Reply
  • MAndreaCMAndreaC
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    FI is the same way, but sometimes you want to be surprised! He always tells me to put to it on hold and he'll go and get it or if its online, here's the card #. Thankfully I don't ever have to wrap it but his argument is I rather get you someone I know you definitely want & love than walk around get frustrated at people, get something and you dislike it. 
    Report Reply
  • kewltifkewltif member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Diane- I am happy.

    I'm just venting.  Of course I should count my lucky stars that this is what I have to be "upset" about.

    Sometimes I just wish he'd put in the effort- when I have been vocal about what I want from him.  I get that he's never going to be as good at gift giving as I am, but it would be nice if he tried a bit more (or at the very least, didn't have me go to the store, purchase my gift, and then pay the credit card bill myself).
    Pregnancy Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Photobucket Photobucket Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • dianenjnjdianenjnj member
    Knottie Warrior 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    tiff, i wasn't inferring that you weren't happy i don't want you to think that's what i meant..

    some men are just that way.  i spent many many years feeling sorry for myself because i never received gifts from my husband...funny story, on my 40th birthday i was so depressed...and pregnant!  i needed a good birthday gift...he got me nothing...so i went to fortunoff and bought a $4,000 diamond wedding band!  i called him and told him what i had done...he was soooo relieved and happy...being out of the dog house helped too!  i figured that would have taught him a very expensive lesson...no way!  so i have resigned myself to the fact that it's not a lack of love or caring or generosity...it's just a quirk.
    Report Reply
  • kewltifkewltif member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_wrapped-own-christmas-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0361866-4937-4bb8-991d-5cbb8c82cd5ePost:361257fb-1187-4a48-9dfb-c91acd1661a6">Re: I wrapped my own Christmas gift</a>:
    [QUOTE]tiff, i wasn't inferring that you weren't happy i don't want you to think that's what i meant.. some men are just that way.  i spent many many years feeling sorry for myself because i never received gifts from my husband...funny story, on my 40th birthday i was so depressed...and pregnant!  i needed a good birthday gift...he got me nothing...so i went to fortunoff and bought a $4,000 diamond wedding band!  i called him and told him what i had done...he was soooo relieved and happy...being out of the dog house helped too!  i figured that would have taught him a very expensive lesson...no way!  so i have resigned myself to the fact that it's not a lack of love or caring or generosity...it's just a quirk.
    Posted by dianenjnj[/QUOTE]

    If I bought myself a $4,000 birthday gift DH would be every emotion BUT happy <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
    Pregnancy Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Photobucket Photobucket Photobucket
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards