Hi everyone, first post here, although I have been lurking ever since we decided to get married and have already read a lot of helpful things in other posts!
We are having a courthouse wedding and small reception in about 9 weeks. We live far from both of our families, so most people who come will be traveling. The problem is the judge does not schedule anything more than 30 days in advance. So we can't even set a time for sure or make exact wedding plans for another oh 40 days. But at the same time, we need to be considerate of guests who want to make travel plans.
The wedding is going to be on June 1 no matter what...if for some reason in 40 days this judge is not available, we will pull something together and the wedding and reception will happen that day.
The issue is not being able to put an exact time or any exact details about the ceremony on the invitation yet.
Because of these circumstances, would it be ok to call our guests who might travel, and let them know about the wedding, and then send an invitation only 4 weeks ahead with all the details?
If I was in my guests' shoes, I would be worried about making plans that cost money just based on a phone call, without an invitation in hand. I've thought about save the dates, but it seems crazy to send those only 8 weeks before the wedding. I don't know what the heck to do here, I can't seem to settle on what seems "right" or best. Maybe nothing is going to seem exactly right because I've picked this nontraditional wedding. Any ideas?